The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
So my month sober AH just got laid off. Before when this would happen, I would come home from work with either a passed out husband or one so drunk he could barely function. I have been praying for strength for me and him and keeping a positive attitude. I will not let this ruin my night with worry and fear. I can do this. He controls his actions and I control mine. He is at a meeting right now, so this is my time to read from my courage to change book and start my second step. Thanks for your time...it really does help to know I have a place here that I can relate to so many.
I know it doesn't seem that way right this second however when one door closes another one opens. It says a lot about your individual recoveries that you are each focused on your own program and not on each other. Congrats and keep up the good work!! Sending you lots of love and support.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I went through a laid off ex A many a time. I always jumped up fixed everything, paid the bills and was very very kind to him. The time when I got to stop paying the bills, stopped looking for work for him, stopped asking him about his job search was a huge change for me. Of course it was also one of tremendous fear and anger too but I did not show it to the now ex A.
I let the ex A ruin my life for years on end. I got to the point of exhaustion, mental anguish and physical sickness. Working the al anon steps helped me to find clarity, self care and self preservation.
