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I know it's before the court time .. LOL .. that's OOOOKKKKK. Turns out my atty and her folks found out I didn't need to be there today. They have continued the case until??? Don't know that answer just yet. Suffice to say that doing the next right thing is a good thing. I highly encourage anyone dealing with an atty to be as honest as possible. Even if it doesn't seem relevent do not be afraid to say hey .. this is what's up .. I need to know if that's an issue or not. Also to run a timeline as to the whole situation you would be amazed as to what you remember, little things you don't think is important. The other thing is save EVERY SINGLE TEXT, voice message, email and so on. I gave my atty a phone that has over 5000 messages on it from the time the initial break happened .. there is sooo much information as to what he said, things he wrote, how bizzaro his behavior has become. How I have asked him to get his own cell phone, .. he has not paid the bill for the past 3 months so there will be a natural consequence. Double checked my motives AND what was going on there. If he didn't get how much trouble he is in .. he does now. It's really not going to be pretty at all.
Soooo ... now I wait for another court date. My atty will be prepared, I will be prepared and the STBAX may be looking for a new atty. There was someone not pleased at all!!!!!!!
There is truly something to be said for rigerous honesty. It is a hard to live by it is sooooooooooo worth it!!! God really did me a huge huge favor in this other situation coming to pass. I knew it at the time, what I didn't know was how much so!!! Now my focus is taking care of me.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Keep hanging in there, Pushka! Continuances are soooo common. And YES--if your relationship is ending (especially if you have kids), keep a detailed timeline of events. It is amazing what we forget! Great advice, my dear!
As you said, just keep doing the next right thing. And, not to be cliche, honesty is always the best policy because I truly believe it wins out even if it doesn't look at way as things progress. Hugs, you're doing great!
