My father always plays this game of "Ill sit here and wait for the phone to ring every single holiday, and if they dont call, ill try heaping guilt on them for not calling me"... I chose not to call on Christmas, not to be stubborn, not to be selfish, just because its a game that goes on every year and its gotten way past old. No cards or gifts have been sent in many years, hes got grandkids and Great Grandkids hes chosen not to meet, and now its not manageable for his health to travel, and knows I cant afford to just hop on a plane and fly from the East Coast to the West coast to go on visits. This time hes elected to post on my brothers and my Facebook page about how he wishes we wouldve called, yet it never occurred to pick up the phone and call anyone? Jeez this stuff is so aggravating. Or is it me who is being selfish? I can never tell.