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Hi,
My partner is away from home and is staying with relatives for a family wedding. Before she went she had started to drink again. She is In AA and was off it for a year following rehab, takes the oils and has an implant. These are obviously not working. She has been asked to leave one relatives house because of her drinking, now in a hotel, drunk again( relatives keeping me posted).
I am at home with our two beautiful kids and the relatives are asking me whether I should fly over from England to Ireland because they are worried about her.
I am not inclined to go. She is due to fly home on the 3rd, supposed to be in work on 4th. I think I could leave it to my and her HP but am worried for our relatives who have not dealt with this before. My advice is going to be to them to leave her to her own devices, sounds cruel but I know I would not be able to do anything if I went.
Just needed to share.
You know what the right thing to do is and I know it is hard to let A's suffer their consequences, but I do believe there is lots of lessons for us all in doing just that. Sending you love and support on your journey!
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"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
If you step in and cushion this for her you may prolong her fall and stop her from feeling what she is supposed to feel through her actions. Also, you would be telling her that she needs rescued and that gives her further reason to continue her path of self pity. It's very difficult, I hope you can enjoy hogmanay.
I agree with your view and decision i know it is hard when relatives are involved. I have suggested to my relatives that I would just cause more of a crisis and if things get out of hand they should call the ER or the police. That worked
Aloha Tim and I just needed to do some reading before the Alcathon New Years starts...Your post is filled with courage and right thinking and going to the rescue never worked for me and it seems for you either. If the relatives are too stressed out they might call the AA central office and see if they have anyone that does "wet" calls. Some times it works and some times not however the best person to sit in front of a practicing drunk is another recovering drunk. Happy New year and stay the course. (((hugs)))
