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imom


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I have decided that my resolution for the new year will be to practice detachment on a daily basis.  This is extremely hard for me.  If anyone has any advice or tips, I would love to hear them.

Thanks for being there for me all this time and Happy New Year to all!



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KennyFenderjazz


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When I'm desperately trying not to attach, serenity prayer over and over until I can't think of anything else,including the desire to attach.  

F2F meetings and phone numbers from them.

 

Ken



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imom

I agree with Kenny- detachment is a tool that takes time to learn.

  Meetings, phone numbers, slogans  are simple tool that I use when feeling upset or the need to RE act instead of respond.

 They do help change my atititudes

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My resolution, which starts now, is to rememorize the Just For Today Al-Anon Pamphlet each day.  It's the recovery I need to do daily.   Happy New Year...smile



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Someone shared that they got a new puppy and they weren't happy about the new puppy in terms of they weren't going to get suckered into taking care of something that someone else wanted. Well, they found a new level of acceptance (that doesn't make it easy when there is diarriah all over the floor, or pee in places it hadn't been).

They described it as this .. that little puppy was doing the best that he could do until he learns to do something different. Which hopefully he will learn to do sooner than later!! The point being is the little puppy didn't come home potty trained and wasn't going to learn in hours what seemed like a very logical choice to the owner.

That's all we are all doing the best that we can do until we can learn to do differently. I try to remember not to beat myself up over the things I haven't learned to do different and keep an open mind so that the God of my understanding can shine through and show me a different way.

Detachment for me comes easiest when I learn not to take what the other person is doing personally and give it over to my HP. I QTIP it.

Hugs P :)

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