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I am just wondering what the alanon steps would suggest I do when I found a bottle of percocet and methadone. Of course, I called him out on it and started a big family fight.
Of course he insisted that he is not addicted and of course he asked me to be in charge of them and to hand them out to him when needed to ensure that he isn't addicted..haha!
Of course I took the bottle and told him that if I am in charge I will flush them, to which he snatched them quickly from me and told me no way.
He then said he would call a pain management doctor to get his own prescription to which I said, great, I would be happy to go with him to the appointment, and then he changed his mind. He told me later to make him an appointment and I told him no that he can make his own appointment with the doctor of his choice. We'll see...he hasn't told me where or when yet...we'll see. Who am I kidding? I know he didn't make an appointment.
OK...back to me...I finally told him that if he wanted to take pills and drink booze and kill himself, I wouldn't try to interfere, but that it cannot happen around me or the kids. He agreed, but I also reminded him that if he stays up after I go to bed to indulge, then there goes what's left of the very little intimacy we have left.
Aloha imom...welcome back. The Al-Anon perspective I had to be taught is also what Betty said. I had to quit all my jobs as the detective and cop and baby sitter and life manager for my alcoholic/addict wife and just focus on myself...which was almost impossible from the start...and...with new awarenesses from the fellowship, the literature, my sponsors, and continuously staying in the program I just ended up with one managers position...of my own life...it's part and of keeping it simple. At first I didn't do well because I found out I was addicted to my alcoholic/addict. I left the program...got crazier...came back and ask the fellowship "Teach me please"? and they did, and it works. Keep coming back...It does work when you work it.!
