The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I called my son last night and we had a nice talk. He was sober so it was nice.
We talked about him and AA and he has decided not to attend which I was disappointed about this but it's his decision.
What I have have to do is change more. I don't need to avoid him anymore. I need to except who he is and go on with good boundries in place.
I will not enable
I will not talk or visit with him if he's under the influence.
I will not talk at all about his problems.
Respect his decisions to take care of himself the way he see's fit.
I continue with my program no matter what anyone says.
Just because I think he has a problem I'm not going to avoid him because it just makes our relationship more strained. With good broundries in place and with him knowing them or needing a reminder whenever. we will get along and I can see him more. If not I walk....simple.
Everyone says what works for us.....so this is my plan. It's not right or wrong...its what I want. If it don't work I change my plan :)
PS: I'm going to go visit my son today and I'm taking him out to dinner. Happy to see him ...been a few weeks.
Prayer and program will keep my serenity in place and my mouth shut lol
__________________
Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Cathy, I'm happy for you, your plan sounds great, I can relate to you. I have an unhealthy, codependant relationship with my son, I hope one day to be where you are.
It truely is one day and one step at a time. The program is graceful and full of mercy...I can change my journey at anytime I need. You seem to have gotten how it works also. Keep on keeping on. (((hugs)))
I have to says prayers to thank HP tonight for a VERY nice time I had. It was so nice to be with my son....him sober....and just enjoying his company. We laughed and talked about all kinds of things. I find he is still seeing his sponsor and tomorrow they have a meeting to work on steps...so he hasn't given up completely on AA. This sponsor is a great guy to come to Will and help him.
Yes one day and one step at a time..... :)
__________________
Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
