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I was just thinking this after the holiday: If I want a change, I have to change the situation. I typically had problems dealing w/ my family again this year. I called them & found myself feeling terrible & very sad. I felt so left out as usual--I live about 900 miles away from them & will probably never spend the holiday w/ them ever! I am hoping that things will change someday where I can actually talk to them w/o feeling bad. That is where the change has to come. I have to learn how to communicate w/o feeling the way I do. Maybe as I age things will get better. Maybe it will always be the same. But if this is natural for me to feel the way I do, I guess I have to accept it. I guess I am going around in circles.
I did, by the way, have a nice Christmas w/ my husband--we ate, played games & watched the musical version of Scrooge from 1970 w/ Albert Finney. Has anyone ever seen that version? It has a song in it called " Thank you very much"--It is hilarious. The production numbers are fantastic! Just like Broadway, I think.
I am glad that you enjoyed Christmas with your Hubbby That is PRECIOUS GIFT. I found that once I had truly accepted the fact that I would never celebrate the Holiday again with family, I could face the Holiday with more joy. I hear a start of that acceptance in your post You are on your way.
Kathleen thanks for the up grade post...loved it and the final wishes. So happy that the holidays are being good to you both. HP bless and stay the course. ((((hugs))))
I was just thinking this after the holiday: If I want a change, I have to change the situation. I typically had problems dealing w/ my family again this year. I called them & found myself feeling terrible & very sad. I felt so left out as usual--I live about 900 miles away from them & will probably never spend the holiday w/ them ever! I am hoping that things will change someday where I can actually talk to them w/o feeling bad. That is where the change has to come. I have to learn how to communicate w/o feeling the way I do. Maybe as I age things will get better. Maybe it will always be the same. But if this is natural for me to feel the way I do, I guess I have to accept it.
I too had similar feelings about the holiday, but I (like you) tried to make the best of it. For me, it was just mom and I for the holidays as my Christmas gift to my daughter was to go with her Godparents (not relatives) so that at least she could have a "family" Christmas of sorts. This made me a little sad to not have her here, but I knew how much it meant to her, so I let her go anyway and was suprisingly ok with it (which was growth on my part, because the last time I let her go with them to a 4th of July Family get-together in 2011, I was very jealous and resentful). This time I just made some special plans for just mom and I and we had a very enjoyable Christmas, just the two of us! Progress not Perfection! : )
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-- Edited by Overcome on Friday 28th of December 2012 07:56:10 AM
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