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My alcoholic/addict newly sober daughter spent Xmas with us, and I think the reality of us having custody of her child and the fact that she can't live with us was soaking in all weekend. She spent all her energy trying to control the situation, sulking, generally acting miserable the whole time and being resentful at me and her sister and i for missing too many Xmasses after being kicked out at 18 (she's 24 now) is taking its toll. Along with knowing she will be going back to her rental house today. I have had enough guilt, enough self blame, enough explaining to codependent people why I won't just let her move back. So much that I'm disgusted with it all. Yesterday she blew up while holding the baby and I had to taker the baby from her. Christmas Eve we went to a meeting and she wanted to go again last night. I didn't want to go so she got my other daughter and boyfriend to take her and pick her up. Then she came back and sulked some more. I do feel bad for her situation but I will watch out for this little one who has no choice in the decisions of others. That's where I am today. It was a good Christmas and I didn't let her moods drag it down.
Aloha Dave...Yep it does sound like you done good. She'll get it when she get's it and she won't give you a trophy for being responsible for her sobriety and clean time. Good Job and Merry Christmas still.
