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Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consulting business to try to go to work for him. This man had a drinking problem but has been sober for close to ten years. I called him and told him that he and my husband could decide what they wanted to do but I thought he deserved to know what the truth was because my husband is in deep denial and was insisting that he resigned from his job. I also hoped that if he knew what was going on he could be helpful in encouraging my husband to sober up since he had been there and gotten healthy.
My reaction . . . yawn. I don't care anymore. Honestly, my motives were honorable. I didn't want this guy to put his money and business on the line without knowing the full story. I guess an alcoholic can always twist and turn someone else into the bad guy. They never think there are going to be consequences for their actions.
-- Edited by WornOutMrsFixIt on Friday 21st of December 2012 11:58:45 PM
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G Llewellyn
I know how it feels to work behind the scene trying to make things better. For me, that has never worked and has always backfired. I try hard to leave him on his own path with his own consequences whatever they are. In theory. It gives me time to look after me.
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I stay out of any alkies affairs these days. In most cases, theyll pul the roof down on themselves eventually, and many need a lot of whacks in the head to finally admit its their own fault. Helping the roof fall only makes it easier to blame you for it, thats all.
