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So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a 30 minute break. During the break I went across the street to get him a candy bar. When I came back he was different. He was trying to get me to go inside and wait for him while he "smoked a cigarette". I did. When he came in for the family group portion of the meeting he kept coughing, which he wasn't coughing the first part of the meeting.
I'm not sure what I'm suppose to do. Do I inform the treatment facility of my worries or do I do nothing?
-- Edited by AKAZBRA on Friday 21st of December 2012 10:56:28 AM
Did you mention to your son that he seemed different? It might be good for him to know that you can detect the differences and will call him on it. If not right now, then once he has worked through some issues - this will be part of him knowing you have his back.
I would definitely tell them. Much of the reason we end up in these messes is because we justify/rationalize/don't want to start things. If you tell them they can watch a little more closely.
You have Come to the right Place... And if Help is what you want, then you landed softly where you should be ;)
I don't know the Answer for your Son, or You when it comes to his recovery, but I will say if you keep coming back, Reading the post here you will find MANY that have been or Are right were you are... I have Made MANY Wonderful Friends here that i Now Call Family because they have Lifted me to a place I Never thought I Could get to with the Alcoholic/Addicts in my Life... They have Filled me with HOPE, FAITH & Love...
If I was to add anything I Would say, Check out the Face to Face Meetings in your Area, they are WONDERFUL Support for you... And they will help you get back to taking care of yourself and allowing your son to get the help that he needs as well.. Many here will tell you if you don't mind a short read the book "Getting Them Sober" is a great first read, and another I like for self care is "How Al-Anon Works" there are Many tools here to help guide you! The Main thing is You Keep Coming back! And know that we are Here for you!
It's that old urge to try and change what we can't change. Not much can be done until he's ready to get honest about his chances for recovery. I can't say that I haven't been where you are, because I have, there's just little you can do until he's ready.
