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This is part of the progression of the disease. Might you want to consult his doctor? Doctors do care and often the alcoholic won't tell them about the primary problem...or they'll lie about it. ((((hugs))))
I agree with Jerry F. Alcoholism is a progressive disease that if left untreated by a 12 step program just gets worse and worse. It's the natural progression.
I hope your A finds sobriety. I hope mine does as well. It's sad to see them deteriorate.
But, the best thing any of us Al-anons can do it to take care of ourselves (and our dependent children) and let the A find their bottom, and hopefully recovery.
Often times withdrawl triggers real panic attacks and alcoholics go into doctors really believing they have anxiety problems. They do not know that alcohol has caused the problems. They are also used to self-medicating every feeling anyhow. I would say that about a quarter to half the alcoholics in recovery that I know also admit to having been addicted to sedatives.
I dont' wish to enter in negative ESH, however it has been my experience with dr's unless they get addiction that they will treat the symptom and not the issue. I actually was in the room with my STBAX and told the dr he has drinking issues and whatever he needed that was the least addictive for an addict. Well of course as soon as he started meeting with the dr without me .. guess what .. I'm crazy he's not an alcoholic. The dr gave him what no addict needs and that is when he spiraled hard.
Anyway, .. if he has a dr who will listen and understands addicts they will see an issue if not .. it's trying to control a completely powerless situation. I encourage you to really keep the focus on you .. I wish I had done that better he might have bottomed out sooner than later.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I would First Say, Find a "Plan B" for your Children... I dont know your ages but doesn't sound like an enviroment i Would want for my kids, because sooner or later they will be caring for him instead of the other way around...
2ndly I Too Agree with Jerry, it couldn't hurt to bring it to the Doc's attention... Who knows what will happen but I Do believe there is Doc's out there that Truly WANT to do better by their patience, and the sooner he/she knows probably the better for all involved, even if it is something you do without your 'A's Knowledge...
I have so Many Friends that their "Other" is on pills, and One Case where the Child was lost for hours and found at 7yrs old sitting along a raging river when they found him, because they wondered off while Mom was Past out Cold! My Fear is always for the children... And Once they are safe, then it is time for Me to Take care of ME!
This Program Teaches us how to put ourselves back on our own To-Do List, Something that was foriegn to me when i got here... I Never Felt Worthy of such a thing, and once I started to do little things for ME... It Truly helped me take the Focus off my A... And Put it back on my & My Son... When he was being a Butt, me & the boy would go for a walk & chat, take a drive out of town, just Leave! Let him deal with his junk and know we didn't have to be apart of it!
Since I began this Journey to Self Help 4yrs ago, My Marriage took on a New Life... My A drinks ALOT less, I Stopped Drinking all together in 2010... We Communicate Better, and when he slips back into "Poor Me!" I Hit the Hiker Biker trail and Clear My Mind... These are ALL things that Helped me & I Hope you find something here that will also help you! Please know this Program is HERE for YOU... All we have to do is Show up for it ;)
I Hope you KEEP COMING BACK... Cause your Worth it :) & I'm Glad you are Here!
