Use the PM function. Click on my name and private message....or anyone else for that matter. People may or may not be willing to have phone conversations. Personally, since you describe your husband checking your phone and such, I don't know why you are pushing that. If you don't feel safe, call the police. You always have life lines.

Here is the alanon crisis hotline. Those folks will be equipped to help also: 1-800-344-2666.