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Its been a 2 and a half months since me and my AW have been seperated. she still tries to get in contact and control my emotions. for e.g last weekend my AW managed to get a hold of me by saying to my brother in law that my dog was about to get put down, i had to call so i did.
anyways the conversation quickly lead to will you ever come back ? to which i replied no, i need to work on myself and you need to work on yourself now, we have both gotten sick through this disease called alcoholism, my AW responded that she has been sober and attending A.A meetings for 35 days which i know is a lie. i used to kid myself on and when she told me i replied.. .you and me both know that you were drinking on the day such and such so lets move onto another topic etc etc
a couple of days later i found out my dog was ok.... i was so upset by this but i know that my AW was using that to get me to call her.
i love her still but she is spiralling out of control, i know i cant change anything and i am working on myself as much as i can.
i am practicing detatchment to the best of my abilities. and im learning new tools almost everyday.
i still miss her but i really think too much has been done now for me to go back.
((((Davie))))...cunning and baffling eh? Using the dog to gain entry to the fort. LOL sneaky disease this is. I read your post with empathy for you both because alcoholism affects everyone it comes into contact with. Your post reminds me of how life changing the program of Al-Anon within the relationship I have with my HP and everyone else is. Detachment YES!! How else will I be able to see the tree from the forest.
Hi there. I think you are strong. As a single alcoholic woman my own personal choice is I mySELF wouldn't even be with another alcoholic unless they were through the 12 steps in AA and had at least a year of sobriety. As for being married, maybe it's the same, maybe not. Others can give you more on that but in the end it is a personal choice. It's between you and God.
If someone is still drinking, all bets are off. And yes. It sucks. But everyone has problems (you ought to see what I'mdealing with in my life right now too!) and we have a program of recovery to use it to grow. We get a whiole new set of fresh eyes. I think you're doing great.
