The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This is not my best season but I am getting better thanks to our Alanon principles, literature, meetings, sponsors, and everyone's heartfelt experience, strength, and hope.
Update on Nancy: I applied for a new job in a new state, interviewed in June, accepted the job in July, moved in August (after 24 years in the same place). I moved in with my 90 year old mother. I just finished my first semester at my new school. I had my ups and downs but I made it with support from my family, friends, and recovery friends and sometimes three meetings a week. I heard my HP's voice saying, "get out" and it has been a very healthy decision for me. I no longer work for the same company as my AHsober.
In September, I met in a lawyer's office about the divorce (his choice not mine). After listening to my AHsober rant and rave and tell her about the law, the lawyer said that she was beginning to see the dynamics of the relationship. It was good to at least be validated by another person. I heard nothing from him in three months. Last week my old company had a going away breakfast for me. My Alanon friends said not to have expectations (my AHsober would be there) and they said that I had moved on. I had a great time seeing my old colleagues. Alcoholics do not disappoint - my AHSober followed me out to the parking lot to tell me that he was going to pay "her" today meaing the lawyer for "it" meaning the divorce.
Dec. 24 is my 39th anniversary. I am still married and I still care. How sad. There is comfort in knowing that many of us are dealing with the cunning, baffling, insidious disease of alcoholism. There are many memories around the holidays but my sponsor reminded me that I am creating new traditions with my sons and grandchildren.
I love how you have used your program and still feel. No, it's not sad to care about someone who used to be someone else, I mean before the disease truly claimed them. Plus that compassion is not a bad thing.
YES to creating new memories. You are really a great testiment to when the program is worked it works :)
Hugs may you be blessed with a wonderful holiday and lots of new memories,
P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Good to hear from you Nancy. I am so happy for your new start. I know it's hard, but you are making great progress. You are an inspiration.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Mele Kalikimaka, Hau`oli Makahiki Hou....Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year Nancy M. Great persistence and work. Thanks for the courage to change what you could change. ((((hugs))))
