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Debilyn


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I have shared I am on a nice journey with a cool guy.We are best friends and will meet in a few months. Been friends over 10 years.

I am having to leave my cabin. My income just cannot do it, and take care of me. I need some dental stuff done, glasses, cloths.

So back to my 5 acres. The loan I have on my place is such a mess, no promissary note, paperwork is wrong and illegal. So they do not want to touch it. I have no payment. If I send one, they send it back.

Moving. have to buy a fridge and stove, son putting new pump back on well. HOuse is a mess, holes in walls, doors knocked in horrible.

I am going to live in the living room kitchen dining area. which is about the same size as the cabin. Then will do a bit at at time. When it is not muddy, a guy is going to come even out the horrible mess the tenants did to the property with four wheelers and get the garbage out.

I will get it back to eden if it kills me.

Now since the creep tenants had so many people up there, they know it is empty so are doing more damage. broke out my front slider. back window.....)c: add some tears to that no

Sooooo I went into meltdown. too much for me. then I started pushing my friend away again. why?

that made me even more lost. I was about to live in my truck. But he stood firm for me. why i don't know.

My question is this. I found out when I tried to push him away, I had no motivation, no desire to go on. just did not care.

some of you know how independant I am.

Soon as I had to call him about something important, we talked and talked for about 2 hours. i immediately felt strong, motivated, happy, not alone. I just cannot do alone anymore.

Ya see to me this should be scarey to need someone like this. I have never had anyone I could before cept my mother.

I trust him 100%. He has proved himself over and over.

I sure would appreciate thoughts. Remember he is in Louisiana I am in Oregon. So i am doing the work. Its like he is taking care of my heart.

much love,debilyn who has to share, my goat Charlie looks like a  mini mountain goat, is playing with my huge 18 mo old Akbash/Great Pyr, Yeti in about 1/4th of the cabin. My silkie chickens MIlly and Ruby,  are up here with me dogs and a cat on the double recliner.AND there is a chicken named punkeedooo perched on my lamp shade.....yes goat goes to door go potty, chickens wear poop catching pants.....



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Mattie


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I may have misunderstood what you are asking about.  But the way I see it, we all need support and caring, and especially when things are stressful.  But when things are stressful, we typically try to isolate.  I read once that it is like animals, who when they're hurt, hide, because otherwise predators will figure out that they're hurt and go after them.  So we feel hurt and we try to hide, but if it's an emotional hurt, that just makes the pain worse. 

And in my case, I always had trouble trusting that people will be there for me, because for so long, they weren't.  But people were designed to live in communities.  So it is natural that we can't do everything by ourselves.  If we could, we'd be tigers or wombats or some animal that lives alone.  But people help each other -- unless things go wrong.  So I think it is very natural that you are heartened by support.



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