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But today, when my exA drove off with my kids (yes they decided they would go with him for one overnight)...he lit a cigarette....oooh ...makes me LOCO!
Both my kids now have asthma (diagnoses came about the same time he took up smoking again)...and I have asked him repeatedly to not smoke around them because it makes them sick...
I know he will say smoking in the car with them is JUST FINE because he cracks the window..
Funny, that's not what health experts say, and even with the window open, this is illegal in this state...to smoke with your kids in the car.
I'm sorry, that has to be tough. My dad was a heavy smoker. Had COPD by the time he was 54, had all his teeth pulled before he hit 60 because of the damage from the cigarettes to his gums. Luckily, my mother never let him smoke in the house but he'd light up as soon as we were all piled in the car, UGH! Even though he died from a spinal tumor, I knew he would have shortened life span because of the smoking. It's such a hard habit to quit. And, as Avid said: if it's not one thing it's another! My AH started smoking a pipe about a year or so ago, out of the blue. He always smoked cigars on and off but not regularly. Now, even with his asthma he smokes a pipe a few times a week and I don't even bother to say anything. This, coming from a guy who ragged on me constantly when we started dating because of my smoking and told me that 'women have no willpower', UGH!
I understand your frustration, it's hard to really get the mentality that none of the rules apply to them. Boy oh boy do they apply to everyone else. I try to encourage both the kids to express themselves when it comes to how they feel about their dad's behavior. They aren't going to change control or cute it. They do have a right to say I feel state the issue and move on. Their dad can choose to continue the behavior, they have choices such as not going over to their dad's. That is up ro them. Hugs p;)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
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