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Well...I AM having a GOOD day so far. My hubby has been in court for one of his AA buddies who was sentenced for something that I would rather not mention in details. He has a LONG road ahead of him. I am so GLAD that my husband is in recovery so HE can be there for someone else. I don't know the results from the from the trial. I am sure I will find out later.
Me, I am doing FINE! I have so much to look forward to. For one, Thanksgiving. Although my mom will be in CA during the whole holiday season, I will still enjoy myself & my husband. She is leaving on the 20th & won't be back until the 29th of December. Maybe this could be a good time for us to be apart, I don't know! I just know that that is what she wants to do & I feel I have to honor that. But, this is the first Thanksgiving w/o my other parents. I am so used to getting call. I will try not to get depressed but I will definitely miss them. And, my family down there will probably have an interesting time w/o them too. I guess I am really not alone w/ these feelings & the GRIEF can sometimes almost feel like a part of ME died too.
I am doing OK w/ my health & am finally accepting the fact that I have pain & it might not go away. I am optimistic though, that the doctor might give me an actual diagnosis soon. I just need to hang in & wait.
Hi kath....I hope you enjoy your holidays...I dont know much of your story but when you mentioned "acceptance" about your pain my interest was peaked. How...how did you learn to accept. I'm struggling with a host of midlife issues, physically and mentally and accepting, at least as I understand it, isn't coming along very well. For one thing the word itself bothers me. It feels like accepting means the same as "allowing", "being ok with it"etc. I'm not ok with what's going on with me. And I don't want to allow it. I understand somethings are out of my control and I feel determined to find what is in my control and do something about it. I can detail that some other time. But anyway the feelings of disappointment, resentment, frustration are what I'm often feeling. NOt acceptance. I think there may be some acceptance of certain issues in that I've come to see that i'm going to have to change me approach to many things (eating differently etc). In many cases I don't mind the changes I've had to make, you could even say I've embraced some changes and just "gone with it", but some things just plain SUCK and I can't ever feel that they are GOOD. How to get past that???
