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I can't even say for sure if it is alcoholism I am dealing with in this situation. Irresponsibility with alcohol I suppose. My questioning is how to deal maturely with the situation and how to view it. On a few occasions my husband has come home from work, temporarily working at a liquor store even though his background is in computer science, visibly tipsy. I am 5 months pregnant so am especially unimpressed when stupidity is exhibited in my relationship.
My problem is I think obvious and that is that he drank at work knowing he had a small lunch and would likely feel the alcohol and then proceeded to drive home. He sees no problem with it. His reasoning that he isn't as drunk as he could be, he was coherent.
Do I just accept this is his choice and try to be supportive since scolding him does nothing to change his behaviour? Do I weigh this against the rest of the relationship which is fabulous?
I'm new so I have no answers for you - but there are a lot of people here who are awesome and will chime in. I think there is literature links and things like that available on the main page... I should head over there too!
Aloha Yogini and welcome to the board...Take the time to scroll back over the subjects previously posted where newcomers come up with their concerns. You will find out you are not alone. I suspect you already know something about the chemical and what it does to the human system. It's not about stupidity its about being mind/mood altered by and intoxicating (poisoning) chemical...he ain't stupid...he's under the infuence. Check the internet about the subject..drunk, intoxicated, alcoholic, alcoholism and just keep reading here. Many of the members here are also members of the 12 step program The Al-Anon Family Groups for families, friends, spouses and associates of anyone who's drinking bothers them. I was born into the disease of alcoholism. I use to think the majority of my family was stupid and then I found out that they weren't stupid they were under the influence...drinkers or not; both sides and many generations removed.
Get yourself the information. You can also find lots of information on the literature tables of the face to face Al-Anon meetings in your area. The hotline number for Al-Anon is in the white pages of your local telephone book. Keep coming back here (((((hugs)))))
Hi there, glad you found us at MIP. I suggest reading all you can on the subject of alcoholism and around this site. The hotline number for face to face Al-anon meetings is under my nickname here and they can tell you about local meetings and times in your area. Sending you love and support!
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