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tiredtonite · Veteran Member

So many feelings

Maxine12stepper · Veteran Member

Hello TT,
I am so so sorry for your loss, I know I dont know you, but I do know from past posts that you and your mum were very close, you had a wonderful relationship that im am sure you are very grateful for, I know this is hard, but you can make it through, we are all here for you, and you sound like you have a wonderful sponsor, you are in my prayers hunnie,

god bless

Maxine xxxx

(and well done to your bf) smile

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

((((TT))))...sending my shoulder to add to the others you can lean on. I was sooo grateful to be able to share my recovery with my Mom before she died. She permitted me to ask her about growing up stuff so that I could do my 4th step and learn about the who, what, wheres and whys of our early family. No she didn't do all of it with a smile in her heart and she did it. Helping her thru her panic last days with sharing recovery prayer and slogans calmed her down and at the end we let each other go with love. That's the way she and I believed it should be done. We had major relationship growth in the end times...very very good major relationship growth and all of it directed by HP. She and I reached peace with each other abiding in the process...How so cool...How so scary and cool. It was awesome watching her arrive at acceptance while I too had that as a goal. Thank you God...how cunning, powerful and baffling.

Grieve yes sister...and celebrate. That comes out to balance. My heart is with you right somewhere around your HP and the rest of your MIP family. ((((hugs)))) smile

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs TT,

Sending lots of love and support. This is a very difficult time, lots more hugs to you and your family.

Hugs P

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear TT

I really am inspired reading your share and witnessing the power of your recovery. To be grateful that your mom was in your life is a true beautiful awareness and will warm your heart often in the future when your grief subsides.

Sending you warm thoughts as you walk through this most painful loss. .I found that the alanon tools really helped to keep me sane as I walked the road you are on. I reminded myself from moment to moment to "Stay where my feet are" Not to project, and to ask HP for his courage, serenity and wisdom.

Know that the warm beautiful memories of your loving Mom will be in your heart always. Slowly when the pain subsided and acceptance sets in the sweet, funny, happy memories will surface and make your heart smile.

Have a safe trip TT and know that HP our Prayers for your entire family go with you.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

This post made me want to cry with you. Very human and very real. I feel for you and am so sorry for your loss. The fact that you can express your feelings and your grief the way you can is a gift. Alcoholics can't cope with feelings well at all and it's amazing that you are surrounded by them, yet have these abilities.

Prayers for you and your family.

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs to you today! Grieving is a process and you're doing a great job of just letting it happen. Feel what you need to feel, cry when you need to cry, and just be. I still grieve my dad, after 11 months to this day, but it's changed over time. I remember thinking that I should call him about something and I felt the same way you did. Be gentle on yourself and know that we are here for you.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

My friend I am crying with you. All that you are doing is normal. It will go on for awhile.

Last night my son and I were laughing and talking on the phone. I told a couple Grammy stories and we laughed. It felt good, it was ok and the memory of her, and him remembering felt so good.

Stay in the moment, feel it out, embrace it, thats how we heal from that horrible wrenching grief. Loss is the hardest thing to go thru.

If you want to just call me and cry feel welcome! Once my friend ran away from being with her mom as she was dying. Just ran down the street called me from a phone booth just out of it. So raw and in pain. We need each other and we need others who have been thru it.

I am sooo glad your mom was so neat. Someday you will see her again and you tell her the candy story. You may want to journal some. I kept one from when my husband went into the hospital after the accident till he died I still have it. His daughter just read it. It is very touching as others wrote in it and he did too.

Wish I could take care of you! I am so glad i saw you posted. Was just about to pm you again. Its wonderful you have your boyfriend, and how wonderful he has a year in!!!

Men can be kinda nice you know? holding you honey,debilyn

stephaniej · Senior Member

TT, my mom has been gone for almost 8 months now. The crushing sadness has lifted, and I now find myself comforted by random, silly memories, and the weirdest small things will make me miss her like crazy.

((HUGS)) to you in this difficult time. I wish you peace and comfort.

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