The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I remember my first dream that proved to me the al-anon ideas were starting to take hold.... I was at home and my sponsor had come over with her husband to change a light bulb for me, they absolutely insisted on helping me but I told her to please not do for me what I could do for myself, LOL!! we laughed and laughed when I shared it with her.
I'm so glad you are releasing your wife to higher power. She is going to do what she is going to do. an al-anon might too, but recovery solutions give us options. woooHOOoooo!
Make it a great weekend regardless of what anyone does ((hugs))
-- Edited by glad lee on Friday 2nd of November 2012 09:09:30 AM
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
For the first time in a LONG time I am actually NOT dreading the weekend and the looming possibility that the wife will crack open the wine. Things seem to be going better and while I am still very cautious when it comes to her drinking I choose to remain optimistic for ME! Every time I start to think that it might be a bad day I remember not too long ago when it was a disasterous day and realize that it could be worse...
On a side note... I had a dream last night I thought I would share. I normally pack my lunch in a plastic grocery bag to take to work with me. In the dream I got to work and opened it up for my lunch and found dozens of the small sample liquor bottles in there (I don't drink liquor). Some were full, some half empty, some completely empty. Just makes you realize how much this disease can affect our subconscious thoughts.
I appreciate your experience strength and hope. I find myself too dreading certain situations, only to remember that I've made lots of progress and its way better than it used to be.
Those dreams are wierd, but things like that don't have to guide our day. I like to "say in spite of" a lot. In spite of not sleeping well, in spite of being sick, in spite of being out of eggs this morning, I'm gonna have a good day!
Yeppers!!! That is how it works...you got it just right...When you finally get your subconscious to stop telling stories like that and/or to change those bottles to something you do like and don't worry about you will realize that you have gotten to the point of management. Half way there. Dreams are metaphoric...the pictures stand for something else. Deeply afraid of the drinking maybe...Hmmmm Okay that was my story. Have a great weekend...remember it's her disease and she has got to take her medicine for her own recovery...((((hugs))))
