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hdftby100


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When I was looking at our online banking today comparing it to our checkbook, I noticed that this morning the wife must have gone to the grocery store on the way in to work.  Guess what my first thought was...?  Yes, I bet she bought some alcohol.  Maybe a small breakthrough but here is how my thoughts went:

"So, the AW is drinking today..."  "What am I gonna do about it?"  NOTHING!  And frankly, I don't care!  Her choice, not mine.  I have no plan nor any desire to say ANYTHING about it.  I didn't cause this, I can't control this, and I can't cure this.  My only prayer is that she finds her path to recovery and happiness.  Now off to enjoy my quiet house (no one is here) until she gets home from work.  I took half day off from work for me.  Have no plan to even disclose that.



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Aloha


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Also great time to get yourself to a face-to-face meeting, or give your sponsor a call. :)


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Gailey


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WOW....hdfby100....I wish this site had a "LIKE" button

How long have you been on this site????? Good work!!!!!

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Unfortunately no sponsor yet as I have only been to one meeting and am new to the site.  There are no daytime meetings near me on Fridays.  I do plan to go to a different group next Wednesday and see what its like there.  I am nowhere near any kind of end or recovery, but just happy here and now.



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Can you hear me giggling and see my  big smile! I was ready to say, so what, she is an A and mind your own business. lol lol

GREAT progress. that is sooooo coool. Plus when you really don't even look or give it a thought, you will look at her, not at what her disease is doing. That is progress.

If you blow it ya do, no big deal. The disease loves to trip us up.

congrats!!!! She will love you more for not being part of her disease too. It kills most A's to know what they do hurts their loved ones. They carry more guilt than we can imagine.

(c: patting you on the back! love,debilyn



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Repeat that repeatedly LOL! I do that with many things now, it's awesome. Great work!!!

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Aloha hdftby and good growth.  That was early experience in detaching for me...baby steps toward caring for my alcoholic/addict wife and staying our of her way and consequences.  As the growth continued I got the "MYOB...MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS" work down and I accepted her unconditionally for who she was just as HP was doing me and how I wanted to be treated myself.  My early sponsor taught me a thinking process or a "thinking it thru process" like when I was thinking that she was drinking and using and didn't really know..."could you be wrong"?.  This was soooo helpful to me because obviously there were lots of times when I was.  When I was wrong I never eased up on being suspicious of her at anytime.  Boy was I soooo sick.  Keep coming back and like Stronger suggested....repeat, repeatedly...hmmmm I like that.  (((hugs))) smile



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Wow, I too really like the progress! Keep coming back and keep up the great work!

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