As I pondered with heavy concern my son's upcoming major back surgery (where the Dr.s have to enter him from both the stomach and the back) my son noticed the toll it was taking on me and simply said, "Mom, the big guy in the sky already has it handled, let's not sweat the small stuff." I was once again reminded that my focus had become misplaced and needed a gentle nudge to rethink my focus.  He was right ya know.  What can be done, will be.  What can't be done, won't be.  The outcome either way is out of our hands.  Watching his program at work through his thoughtful reminder helped make me stronger and calmer. Son then jokingly said since his surgery is the day before Halloween, "Mom, I think this year I will go as Pain"  ...God love his soul!!  He can always make me smile.