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HI abby! My ex, my daughter's dad, is a porn addict, there are 12 step groups that are like al-anon that are geared towards that. They are called S-Anon and COSA. I also private messaged you some books that I might recommend, but they are not CAL approved, so did not list them here.
Hope that helps!
Overcome
-- Edited by Overcome on Friday 12th of October 2012 08:06:03 PM
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If there is one thing I have learned in my years in this program is that I cannot help anyone with a problem if I myself have not experienced what they are dealing with , and my solution is to find someone in program who has been there done that and direct them to the person asking for help . I have the priveledge of sponsoring several women but none to date have the problem my young friend is having , so I am asking if anyone here can direct me to some literature that will help . My friends husband has an addiction to porn sites , this has really hit her hard , together we have tried to find support groups that she can attend to talk to others who have been where she is at , no luck . If anyone on this site can recomend a book that would help my friend I would really appreciate it if you would share that with me , either on this board or in a private message. To date our Al-Anon literature does not address the problem . Any help would be appreciated so thank you in advance .. Louise
I was going to suggest S-Anon, too. My sister's husband is a sex addict and has a major problem with porn. He used to masturbate multiple times a day at work in the bathrooms when he was at the height of his problem. Now, he's living with his new girlfriend, smoking pot, and back to smoking cigarettes too. He lost his job, his car blew up, and my sister is now getting foreclosed on their house because of his job loss. Anyway, she's found great support in Al Anon because there are no S-Anon meetings near her. She thinks that Al Anon fits her problem as she became extremely codependent with him: checking his phone, breaking into his emails, putting recorders in the car and exposing his affairs, etc. It was CRAZY!
I don't think she's found much out there as far as literature, though, she just uses our Al Anon material.
OH, I wanted to add that there is some support online in message board form. I don't know if I am allowed to post the link here so please PM me and I will get it to you. It's for spouses/partners of sex addicts. Seems like an active enough board where someone posts daily.
I am not familiar with any programs or national support groups.
A book that helped me greatly understand addiction is called The Addictive Personality by Craig Nakken published by Hazelden Foundation (my copy is dated 1996 and is the second printing). There was a section describing the ritual of a sex addict that actually helped me to understand alcoholism and addiction better than anything else ever had. It is a good source for learning about addiction that offers examples your friend may be able to relate to.
Another book that has a chapter on Sex Offenders and how these dysfunctions develop is Bradshaw on: The Family., by John Bradshaw. I mentioned it on another thread about Shame vs. Guilt. This is a very good book to explain family dysfunction in general. I agree with ilovedogs, I have used the al-anon 12-step program in the absence of an S-Anon being close to me.
Lisa
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