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Ok, .. I'm going to own the fact my crystal ball is broken and I want a refund darn you Crystal Ball R Us .. soooo not what I ordered!!!
I have had these floating thoughts running rampet in my head recently due to many things that have been coming to pass.
Some are right and some like I said big ol' crack in that crystal ball and BOOM .. me with egg on my face! LOL!! Thankfully, no one knows it really and I have to own it to one person the exact situation (ok .. 3 people) that's way ok.
What I have learned recently and got dropped on my head again is that there is a magic cloud of floating thoughts that just sit to the right of my head, .. you know the one with the cartooon bubble that has all of the words and sayings that I want to believe that is true. The reality is that these thoughts are just like my feelings just because I pick one doesn't make it a fact.
By the grace of the God of my understanding .. I DID keep my mouth shut, and I did NOT react to the specific situation. This is a tool I learned in alanon thank you, thank you, thank you alanon OR I would have looked like a crazy person.
Sooo .. any ESH as to what to do with this floating bubble of thoughts I so desperately need to make facts? What can I do with them to at least push them further back? I did the next right thing .. as I did not react .. ohhh wow .. I would have so earned that spot on CNN too!! Not the way I want to either!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Your inward journey is certainly revealing some powerful insights for you to see and acknowledge. I found that once I saw the "Bubble" , acknowledged it , shared about it and did not call on it -the pull of the "Bubble" lessened. Today though the bubble floats overhead I am rarely tempted to go there.
Keep working your program, share what you discover, continue to use the Steps and Slogans and soon ,just as you no longer react , different response will automatically replace the bubble.
There is a quote in the Courage to Change that I love Page 305
Chinese proverb
"That the birds of worry and care fly above your head,this you cannot change. But that they build nests in your hair this, you can prevent
I like what hotrod says, to acknowledge it. Through my counselor I was taught the same. To basically say to it "thank you for your input" and then move on. It's trying to be helpful, it wants to predict and save you but then it begins tot ake on a life of its own and predict things that are entirely fabricated, then suddenly you are expecting the worst and acting on it before anything happens LOL.
So thank it for it's offer of help and then stay in your clear mind :)
I so needed this, my own big bubble is acting up and I am trying to ignore it, but to acknowledge it, and let it go and decide to do the next right thing is pure genius! What I group I tell you, always what I need to read here at MIP! Thanks for this post and ESH!
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
I didn't realize I was even doing this until I heard it talked about during the conference. As I sat back and really thought about what I do and then watched my actions and thought CRAP!! I'm doing it!! I didn't add the part about the index cards and making rules as I go along .. LOL. If there is no rule I will make one up. I make the rule to fit the situation.
There is some big stuff court wise going on at the moment and I'm just really trying not to allow my imagination to get the best of me .. the reality is what it is .. honestly I don't have to do anything. I'm in the hurry up and don't do something SIT there and honestly it's a place of powerlessness that really causes great discomfort to me. Doing something even if it's not healthy feels better than this!!! I know the real answer to that is STOP, LISTEN and WAIT!
Thanks for the ESH and it's good to know I'm not alone in my bad neighborhood .. lol. :) I'm really working on seeing the thoughts and saying ok .. maybe .. however I choose not to react. I need more information. That has helped and I really could have made a bad situation way way way worse than it needed to be and this is all about someone else's needs for me to be like I used to be. I'm just not there at all.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I have had these floating thoughts running rampet in my head recently due to many things that have been coming to pass.
Some are right and some like I said big ol' crack in that crystal ball and BOOM .. me with egg on my face! LOL!! Thankfully, no one knows it really and I have to own it to one person the exact situation (ok .. 3 people) that's way ok.
What I have learned recently and got dropped on my head again is that there is a magic cloud of floating thoughts that just sit to the right of my head, .. you know the one with the cartooon bubble that has all of the words and sayings that I want to believe that is true. The reality is that these thoughts are just like my feelings just because I pick one doesn't make it a fact. 
By the grace of the God of my understanding .. I DID keep my mouth shut, and I did NOT react to the specific situation. This is a tool I learned in alanon thank you, thank you, thank you alanon OR I would have looked like a crazy person. 
Sooo .. any ESH as to what to do with this floating bubble of thoughts I so desperately need to make facts? What can I do with them to at least push them further back? I did the next right thing .. as I did not react .. ohhh wow .. I would have so earned that spot on CNN too!! Not the way I want to either!! 
Hugs P :)
