My Meltdown Yesterday - Al-Anon Family Group

denro · Member

My Meltdown Yesterday

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I had a backslide with my exAH and my sickness lately. You always get a do over and another chance to dive into your program. I hope you can make it to some face to face meetings. Sending you love and support!

denro · Member

Thanks Breakingfree,

I appreciate your response.

I'm going to at least a meeting a day.

It helps, and I am a newcomer, so I hear things will get better and I am trusting that, though I have moments when I doubt, because ya' know I suffer from terminal uniqueness...;)

Zimmy · Senior Member

Hay denro

Its so true what breakingfree has said about getting another chance to dive into your programme. I also think (I'm early into my own recovery) that it kind of helps with the steps when we dont use the tools we have, it confirms to us that the 12 steps and al-anon works!

To me its like being a scientist getting back results from experiments, it backs up our data and research.

All the best in your own recovery and where it will take you

Diva · ~*Service Worker*~

And.......? Is that all? We do the best we can with what we have available to us, and when we take a step backward, we recognize it, get those shoes going forward again, and walk right over that backward step we took. There will be many times when you may behave in a manner you wish you had not, but that's not failure. That's HUMAN! Dust yourself off and continue on. All's well. Take care and be easy on yourself.

Diva

-- Edited by Diva on Friday 28th of September 2012 10:19:23 AM

denro · Member

Thanks Zimmy and Diva,

I'm doing a bit better, though I have not yet been really able to experience any joy.

I just trudging right now, going to meetings, reading literature and the daily books.

I have a sponsor lined up and have left him a voice mail asking him to take me through the steps.

I hear this particular man is strong and is older and if I hve the opportunity to work with him, it's a good thing.

He doesn't listen to any BS, more like get your head straight, do the work and recover daily. Daunting, but I am willing.

Thanks again,

Dennis
(denro)

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Most people don't get "joy" from work relationships. Also, while we do strive to live by the principles of the program in all our affairs, don't mix up tools for dealing with an addict with those that might work in the business world. Yes - you want to be the same person in all settings, but there are different tools for different settings.

Calling someone out on breaking contracts, lying, unscrupulous behavior is necessary at a job often times. You might be trying to rid yourself of traits and abilities that you need. Be careful.

For example: I work as a counselor. Suppose my client told me that their parent was whipping them with extension cords? I could use "the program" to tell myself "I should detach. I am powerless over other people. It's sad but I can't fix everything." Okay...those are valid program tools and they are good to use in certain situations. BUT, in this situation, I would get fired and lose my license to practice for not reporting abuse.

I know your work situation is unique but just remember that 3rd line of the serenity prayer when it comes to using these tools. You need to have the wisdom to know the difference for when and when not to apply them. There is no hard and fast rule for applying tools to your life - especially as they pertain to relationships and the world outside of dealing with an alcoholic/addict.

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