The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Why do I feel I need validation that what I am doing is the right thing for my kids and myself?
I need to start trusting myself a little more!!
My son invited a friend over!!! I know, I know, this doesnt sound like much to others, but for me, for HIM, it was HUGE! My son has not invited friends over to our house for as long as I can remember....years!!!
I asked him after his company left, why he never invited friends over...he wouldnt really answer me. So I went on to tell him that I was a little embarrassed and scared to have my friends over as I wasnt sure what mood my AH would be in. Would he flee the scene and hide until the company left? Embarrassing!! Would he loose his cool and start yelling?? Scary!! I asked my son if he felt that way sometimes...he said, Yes.
So....just having him bring a friend home was such a huge thing for him. My son is starting to feel comfortable and feel like this is his home where he is safe and can be himself.
Although my daughter misses her daddy terribly...I heard today from her daycare that they have seen her moods and tantrums almost deminish in the last 4-5 months.
It is rough being a single working mommy of two, but so worth it!!!
I can so relate on many levels. You are working your program and doing what's right!!
It's a big process so glad you could write it out and see what you are doing and how it is helping your family!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I am so very pleased to read of the gentle changes that are happening in your home. Alanon truly does work . I am reminded of the introduction to meetings " Changed attitudes do aid recovery"- for everyone.
HP is a powerful prescence--- Keep up the good work
Everyone needs some validation. My sponsor told me that even. You are doing awesome and I'm proud of you. The way you initiated that conversation with your son was wonderful and also the way your describe your daughter's temperment improving... These things are your HP's grace working through you and in your life.
I validate that with a huge YOU GO DRAGONFLYS! (and a simultaneous little happy dance for you). LOL.
