Just wanted to share something im quite new on here so first time Ive shared on here!! Here goes, I have had a really trying day today, all emotions good and bad, but it was great just to be able to use some of my alanon tools to get me through the day.  I remembered that its ok, i will feel things good and bad, think about them and then let go let god.  

But my biggest blessing today was when my thinking started with the what if my beloved a is....but something in me (hp) put in my head what if he isnt? and that just straight away cancelled any crazy thought right in its track.  This single thing took all the anxiousness away the old way of wanting to control things by thinking every dire way thing could work out.  It also made me feel oh well if crap does happen i'll just deal with it if I need to.  (of course with that thinking everything is much better and im more in the moment than trying to control the maybes that could or couldnt happen. 

I dont know if that makes much sense and if it doesnt im sorry, but i needed to pat myself on the back..lol

Thank you all who have posted your esh or your shares it helps me so much, one grateful member. :)

Hi, and thanks for the opportunity to share.

I gave some thought to this question over the last week.

I was once locked up inside between "what if" and "if only".

Badly, and lost. This week I reflected on what lies there

in the middle-  "what is".

This is the place the serenity prayer has taken me. And

I am happy here, most of the time.

:>)  DavidG.