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pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

pity party

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

If I lived closer I would make you some homemade soup. I am sending you so much love and support!

Path to Serenity · Senior Member

I'm a few thousand miles away but will this help

((((((((((HUG)))))))))

Icie · Senior Member

I hear you loud & clear & totally understand.It's awful being alone at the best of times & twice as bad when one is sick. Sometimes we just need to feel our feelings. I heard in a AL anon meeting anger & hurt turned inwards causes depression, so its good to talk about our feelings.
It is ok to feel anger, what sane person would not feel angry living with a alcoholic is like living in a insane hospital & those feelings do not leave just because the alcoholic is no longer present. The question is how are we going deal & handle those feelings. For me it is going to lots of meetings, working the 12 steps the best I can, posting here & sharing my feelings.

Hugs

dragonflys · Senior Member

Sending you much love! I am sick too, so I can relate to how you are feeling. This is the first time I have been sick since my AH left. It's rough, but you have us! Sending you a cyber cup of Chicken noodle soup for the soul! Relax and take care Dragonflys

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hug hug hugs .. so sorry you aren't feeling well. Sending lots of love and healing support your way. It's no fun being sick.

Hugs P :)

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

I hear you Pineapple, there are times when I really miss having "someone" in my life to do the MAN thing. Men are funny creatures, no offense to those here but, they think we want them for certain men things and what we really want from them is the caretaking thing. Oh how I would LOVE to have a man in my life that would know without being told that my shoulders are tense from driving so many hours in my job and give me a gentle much appreciated shoulder rub with no strings attached. Or to have my plants watered because I just don't seem to have the time between all the job things I have going. maybe I'm rarely sick because I know that I'll be alone battling it. If the ex were there you'd wind up having to take care of HIM and ignore the fact that YOU need taking care of. Just think of it as eliminating the middle man I guess. Be well.

nmike · ~*Service Worker*~

Glad I came here tonight. I have had that kind of day. Wondering where my AHsober is, why he left. I thought my dog was dying last night, I had a small reprimand at work, trouble with a student, and general depression. Like you say, if he was here he wouldn't be much comfort, he never was. In the end, I look to my HP for guidance. But on the other hand, a young male colleague walked me out to my car today. We just talked about work, working out at the gym, and how our classes were going. That was nice - how did I forget that? And my dog is better.

Nancy

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Pineapple

You are not alone Please be gentle with yourself and know HP is walking right beside you.

In my thoughts

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Sis...after Breaking makes the soup I'll carry it in to you and both or all of us will pull the blankies up around you and hold your hand which of course would prevent you from eating Breaking's soup or you from having the quiet to rest. We'd probably get into all kinds of AFG shannanigans and keep you awake and anxious...LOL You are loved and we are here for each other and you and just ready ready ready to take care of someone cause the alcoholic is lost out in the woods somewhere and we don't have anyone to take over... smile Likemyheart would love to have a "funny creature" LOL -lmao- like me around however my spouse would never let me massage another females feet or back or shoulders or water the plants or change the oil in her car or iron her clothes (at times) before she goes to work and the other stuff. Wouldn't happen elsewhere but here and funny creatures can take care of their own lives and still be a part of a twosome because of recovery. I'm a funny creature...LOL and the fact is I also thing men are...funny creatures at best and outright dispensable at our worse. Sending my HP over to lift you up. ((((hugs)))) smile

batcheat · Newbie

Sending you healing hugs, Pineapple. All will be well.

glad lee · ~*Service Worker*~

I am with you in spirit (((my friend))))

pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm not 100% yet, but feeling a little bit better today. I actually got up and got dressed. As always, it's easier to deal with in the daytime. Something about the night brings out my darker thoughts. Thanks for all the ESH, hugs, and cyber-soup. dragonflys, I hope you're feeling better too.

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

Hope you're feeling better by now, Pineapple. I don't know where you live but I make really awesome chicken noodle soup. I'd love to bring you some! I hate being sick but my AH was never awesome about caretaking but he was good about getting ds out of my hair or out of the house so it was always a nice distraction for me to get some rest.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh I relate! Am sad you feel so crummy!! going to send you healing thoughts and love pretty lady!

You could teach your dog to bring you stuff from the fridge, but then you probably don't want a beer! lol hugs honey!

debilyn

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