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My boyfriend is doing in-patient rehab for alcohol. He was in detox for 12 days here locally then transferred to a place a few hours away when a bed became open. We had a falling out about the 3rd day of his detox over me not wanting to give him a phone number of one of his friends. So when he left, we're not on talking terms. Anyway - long story short. He is about 6 hours away from home. He didn't take a calling card - so he has no way to contact anyone if he so desires. Should I send him a calling card, or is better that he do the 30 day treatment in solitude? Any advice?
From having done rehab myself, I found it was best to focus on myself and my recovery with NO outside distractions. (even tho friends & loved ones mean well)
My experience as a family member was that we were not allowed to have direct contact with him for the first 30 days. He was there much longer. He listed whose calls staff could accept and who could receive updates about him. TT
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He is there without a calling card because of the way he behaved prior to going so leave it as it stands. It is just a consequence of his behaviour that he needs to learn how to deal with.
I agree with all the other posts; best to leave him now. He needs to focus completely on his getting better right now. There is always time to connect later.
I agree with the others and while I personally wouldn't have refused a number to him - it's not a big deal because the truth is, if he really wanted that number, he could have gotten it. Take this time to go to Al Anon and focus on you and learn what it means to be in a relationship with an addicted person. Hugs.
