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Yes, I have a funny story about being denied and it was by a website no less!!! Geeze, .. if only I could swing like this when it came from actual people I'd be a rockstar in detachment .. LOL!!!
Anyway, God thinks He's very funny .. and I needed a lesson in my own words biting me in the behind. I decided I would like to know what is out there are far as dating opportunities .. I am thinking I might and let me stress MIGHT like to see what it's like and that just know what is available. So I didn't check out match I tried a different one that it's a little harder to lie on that one. I think it was Thursday I decided to check it out and just see what it is about, it didn't cost me anything so what the heck.
I go through this intensive personality quiz, it took about 50 min or so and I was pretty honest I think at least about where I am at .. I'm separated, not really looking long term however need to start learning what it means to be friends with men and just wanting to have fun with no sexual entanglements. I would like to get that text or phone call saying hey you don't have the kids next weekend let's go do something. Not every weekend just a couple times. I love the theater, and there are just things I would enjoy doing. It would be nice to have an escort.
After being so proud of myself over how honest I was, and as I clicked the send button and the magic answer came back .. We are sorry as you are separated you are not eligable to participate on this site .. ROFLMAO .. ohhhh WOW .. now the irony is this .. I have tried to explain to my wasband that when the kids are with him that introducing them and/or talking, texting on the phone constantly is not ok. They see and while I am not what I would call a bible thumper, there are things within my religion that are moral compass things to me .. one of them being we are STILL married and the kids need some kind of stability in knowing that they aren't just a bi-product of a marriage gone bad.
Well there you have it and because it's on the internet it must be true (please note all sarcasm in that statement, there is an inside family joke about that one) .. sooo .. I now have proof no dating until we are officially divorced. That's probably not a bad thing and I'm glad I got the little reminder that you are in a complicated situation at the moment come back when things are final!!! ROFL!!! Talk about being a fast forgetter.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thats to Funny :) Isn't It Great what this Program Can Teach Us when we are Centered with our HP... I Tell ya tho.. I DO NOT Envy AnyONE... that has to go back out in this Crazy world and Start the Dating Scene again! But its Great that you can see the Humor, that has been the only thing that has saved Me More times then Not! ... :)
I ove your sense of humor! I dated a man when I first left and I so wasn't ready. That is why I took a year and I am still wondering if I am ready. This whole men and women thing has me knowing God has a sense of humor too.I am glad you are taking the time to focus on yourself! Sending you love and support!
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"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
LOL! I wouldn't be ready to date either, even though I know I have a few fantasies about it when my AH is acting like an a**.
Speaking of dating sites, my stepmother just met someone on a dating site a few weeks ago. My dad passed away 9 months ago and she was missing male companionship and always felt like the 5th wheel when out with her couple friends. She's 63, has a career that takes her away every week, and smokes like a chimney/drinks like a fish. She found this man who makes her feel like a schoolgirl. She was so giddy on the phone the other day and I was very happy for her. Then, I realized something. No matter what age you are, there are always other lonely people of the opposite sex looking for the same thing. I guess my point is that: when you're ready, the right man or maybe even 'men' will be there for you for companionship, love, support, or whatever it is that you are asking God to make available to you. Thanks for sharing your story, I got a good laugh over it!
I know the site you were on and I had a friend who was told that they were sorry but based on her answers there were no compatible individuals on their site. For real. She met her now husband through another site.
This just confirmed that you are right where you need to be in your program :)
Wow! LOL. Gave me a little chuckle. I do agree as far as finishing one chapter in your life before moving on to the next. Nothing says final like a closed book! Hugs to you hun!
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That's probably not a bad thing and I'm glad I got the little reminder that you are in a complicated situation at the moment come back when things are final!!! ROFL!!! Talk about being a fast forgetter. 
