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peacewithin


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Well My AH quit about 2 months ago this morning he comes home

and tell me well tomorrow is our anniversery (34YRS) and the football

games on i'd like to have a few beers I reminded him my bounderys I

Made If he had that 1 drink i'm filing for divorce he did not remember

yeah right he did not remember. I HATE THIS DISEASE !!!!!!  But I can not

one more day like that again.

 



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pineapple


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(((peacewithin))) I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. But it's part of living with an A. He doesn't remember? OK, you reminded him. It's up to him whether he's going to have that drink. It's up to you whether you are going to stick to your boundary. Sending you positive thoughts & support.

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Yes to you peace. Yes stick with your boundaries. You can celebrate without beers :) Have some A&W floats! With ice cream! Buy a huge cake and enjoy! SO many other ways to celebrate then a drink! Hugs.

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pinkchip


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I don't have a good response for this. I'm going to share my bad response which would be "You think you don't have a problem with alcohol yet you crave it so bad you cannot remember that drinking it will lead to a divorce. Time to go to an AA meeting perhaps?"

Of course that is rotten and snarky so please disregard. I don't know if your communication is such that there are calm and more open moments of communication in which you might be able to explain that it's very commendable that he could stop for 2 months even to save the marriage....but that this is "white knuckling" sobriety and if he would prefer to be sober and not even miss the drinking, there is a way to achieve that in AA. You have probably tried that and it hasn't worked - Hence, the alanon is there for you to help you stick to your boundaries and detach from the obvious insanity of being with an addict/alcholic.

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