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hotrod


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Hi Kat

You are not alone .   Please take deep breaths and keep repeating the serenity prayer, the slogan,Let go and Let God over and over until you begin to feel the calm.  This worked for me very often when I was feeling as you do.

Remind yourself that you are powerless over this destructive disease and that your alanon tools will protect you while you walk thru the day. 

 Stay where your feet are do the next right thing at your job and place principles above personalities.

Have a Plan B for this evening

Good Luckf



-- Edited by hotrod on Friday 7th of September 2012 01:34:06 PM

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Just got in an arguement with AH when I went home for lunch.   He's currently out of work (still)....  He told me as a threat before I left... "Guess I'll be going to the store today"... ie beer run.   He's been sober for quite some time.

Long story short I spoke to him once while he was at the store...  he of course was trying to say I wasn't doing anything to fix what was going on... I just texted him "like drinking is going to fix anything, that's a cop out, you just chose alcohol over your wife"    

 

When I talked to him I told him if he was going to drink I didn't want him there when my daughter and I get home.   He wanted to know why and I told him I don't feel safe with him erratic behavior when he drinks AND he's mad....   

It's all I can do not to fake an illness and go home to deal with this.   disbelief  Help me get some control of myself.  



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Pushka


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You stated a pretty strong boundary, said what you meant, meant what you said and it sounded direct not mean. The bigger question comes can you stick to that boundary?

Can you go to a meeting tonight? I know that always helps me feel better when I don't feel ok.

Sending love and support, it's not an easy walk, hugs P :)

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You are not on a ledge...you are just going against your norm. That doesn't make it wrong. Whatever happens is going to happen anyhow. Your HP has your back. Believe it!

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Debilyn


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He is an addict. They use drugs. Nothing new.

I learned it was none of my business. I chose to live with him. He has the right to be accepted as is. If I could not, well I ended up not safe so I could no longer accept him as is.

Whether they buy it drink it whatever, of course it may make me sad, but I would not say a word to him. He is an adult.

You are so right to set boundaries, and consequences, and stick to them.

Keep you guys safe!

They do not pick it over anyone. They have a horrible disease that makes them crave it. It's not personal.

I know when I realized all this, how sick he was, I had and have great compassion for him. It made me feel soooo much better.

Hope this helps some. Or grab onto my rope and hang on, got a few others on it too! love,debilyn



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Breath in, breath out. They tell us not to say anything except, "oh".

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