The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Welcome to MIP, glad your enjoying your alanon meetings, I like to hear that.
If you look on the board here there is a stepwork board, John is in charge of that, not sure. when you first come on, if you look above to the posts on top, you will see it. This I think is what your looking for until you can connect with your sponsor.
All my best to you on your path to recovery.!
Hugs, Bettina
-- Edited by Bettina on Tuesday 28th of August 2012 07:49:30 PM
So I have been attending one Al-Anon meeting per week since May 3. I love my meeting home group and i just asked someone to sponsor me that actually said yes. Now i do not know where to start, I want to get into the steps asap but i do not know where to start. I have called my sponsor but the two of us are so busy we keep missing each other. I read the ODAAT in AL Anon each morning and take a few minutes to pray and ask for guidance in this day, then a few more minutes at night to thank God for the day he gave me. I currently am surrounded in recovery. My current GF is almost 2 years sober and many of the people who are around me are in recovery. They all have their own way. It does not help that i am interning with counselors too. So many opinions that i do not knwo where to go from here!
Good for you Ladybug.... as to where to start, you're definitely on the right path here.... going to meetings, getting a sponsor - those are two really key initial moves, and I applaud you for both....
My wise old (and sometimes blunt) sponsor used to remind me "the Steps are numbered the way they are for a reason", so begin with Step 1.... Even before you can hook up with your sponsor, you can definitely start working on this one..... I am a list writer, so I tend to write it out..... In what ways is alcohol (or the alcoholic) making my life unmanageable at the present time?).....
It's all good.... As Bettina pointed out, there is a Step Board on this site, that can definitely be of value to you....
Keep on working it..
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
That does help alot! I am going to try to get another meeting in tonight i normally only go to one a week but i haev the night off and i like the wednesday night meeting so off i go :)
One of my biggest issues is that i HATE to talk on the phone. Absolustely hate it. I know if nothing changes then nothing changes so i am trying to get through it.
Welcome LadyBug! So glad to have you here! I also started attending online meetings as it is convient for me at the moment. I hope to get some F2F meetings soon! As for now I am def enjoying Al Anon! Hugs and happy to have you apart of our family!
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"It's impossible said pride. Its risky said experience. Its pointless said reason. Give it a try whispered the heart - Anonymous (via Tad)
so my girlfriends sponsor from AA was at my Al Anon meeting tonight :/ i know it happens but i had an issue i wanted to share but felt weird sharing it in front of her sponsor because it was about her. She came to me after the meeting and requested i not tell my gf that i saw her there which i wouldn't have anyway, but i still felt awkward. SO maybe someone here can help:
My gf of 9 months who is 21 months sober came to me today and shared with me that she is dealing with some feelings that she has coming up about her ex gf (that lives in another state) that left her (due to the alcoholism) theday before she decided to get sober (so almost 2 years ago). She is going through the steps agian with a new sponsor who urged her to contact the ex to make amends that needed to be made which she told me about prior to and i did not have any problem at all with because its not my life to live. Now she is trying to deal with these recurring feelings about the ex and communicated them to me today. I really don't know how i feel. I told her to deal with her feelings how she and her sponsor deem fit and if she wants to break up so that she can deal with them to let me know. (i have had my ex-A's mess around behind my back with exs ugh)
Did i do the right thing in minding my business about it? I created the boundry of saying that she needs to keep open communicatioon with me about it and her feelings about it. I told her that she was welcomed to leave me if she needed to and i asked her to not start seeing this girl behind my back. I told her that i deserved the honesty and would not accept anything less.
