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Well, he finally tried to kill himself. My AH went into a tailspin, after I went to work he posted a goodbye on Facebook and turned the car on in the garage. Of course a friend saw and called 911. He is physically stable but angry , he is blaming me that I wouldn't talk to him last night. I tried talking to him last night many times and he wouldn't talk. I guess I didn't stand at the door of the room he locked himself in. Now what? They are Baker acting him but after that what, I don't want him coming home, I can't do this anymore. If any has experience here it is appreciated. Am having a very bad day.
I have no experience with this, but just wanted to send you (((hugs))) and encourage you to continue to take care of yourself - even moreso - during these crises....
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I agree with Tom...You take care of yourself and do what is right for you. Let his HP, who or whatever that might be, see to him. There comes a time when we can do no more. I reached that point very recently after 10 years of thinking I could help him get "better." I will be thinking of you and sending all the positive energy I can muster up to you. Best wishes, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Hugs to you Trudy. I have experienced close calls but never like that. Hugs hugs and more hugs. We are here for you. Take care of yourself. If you need a friend, reach out.
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"It's impossible said pride. Its risky said experience. Its pointless said reason. Give it a try whispered the heart - Anonymous (via Tad)
Just remember Alcoholics kill themselves every day , some on the layaway plan and others in a dramatic way. HP showing you that your A has a higher power guiding him.
They just need another person in their life that they can point too and blame, dont be that person. We always need to get out of the way so they will eventually feel the consequences.
Trudy this is a first step alert for practice...over and over and over again. "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholism..." Got him in my prayers....you too!! ((((hugs))))
I had that experience. My ex-A took a whole bottle of pills and called his mom to say goodbye...he was wasted on top of that. That was one of the low points of my life. I took the time to get some clarity and in retrospect, that was the period where I grew a bit stronger in terms of realizing I would be okay without him. After he came home, things were not the same again. I was done at that point.
I was not going to be held hostage like that in a relationship. The drinking was one thing but literally trying to kill yourself and making me watch and go through that....It was a new level of self-centeredness.
So sorry. I am assuming by Baker Acting him that means he will be admitted and have a psychiatric evaluation. That could be a good thing because I believe many alcoholics are self medicating depression or other mental problems. Don't accept the blame for this. Will be praying for both of you.
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G Llewellyn
Baker act is the Florida law that allows a person to be committed against their will for up to 72 hours. IT just means involuntarily committed. Mine was baker acted too, as I live in florida also.
