It is funny I was thinking about all the behaviours of A. I am starting to learn that perhaps others exhibit those traits which I need to recongize? Not about me as a person but it is about their behaviour. Has anyone found once they started attending Al Anon meetings they were open to the possiblities that there were other As their their lives without fully being aware? I had an issue with a client. Really it was due to "her and her husband lack of communication." She was all accepting, completely agreeable to what our contract said. Suddenly once she got home (my feeling is her husband went hayware). Sadly this is a close friend of mine. She has been for 9 years. She has watched my girls grow up. I had cleared the table with her, confirming what we had agreed & what was expected. She completely did a 180 on me! Seriousily! I am shocked! I cried for days. I am realizing you know, it was her bad. She should have asked all the right questions, everything was plain and simple on my contract. She wasn't willing to explore or ask to make sure it's what she 100% wanted. No only that she decided to wait til the very last second to let me know. I don't work that way. We agreed, we signed on those terms. Bottom line...she gets nothing more.

It went as far as she was harassing my cell, she blocked me on Facebook, and now threatening I will regret. After 9 years of friendship? I thought we were more then that. Apparently her husband was angry and she fell whim to his "control." So now I am applying Al Anon to this. This is not my problem. I have tried to work things out the best way I could have. She is expecting things far out of what I can give.

Have you experienced this within your workplace? Friends? Etc?