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My S/O was warned he was on his last straw at his job. He texted me and said he doesn't want to work and left. As far as I know he has no days left. He already was told if he was late or anything he would be fired. I am sick to my stomach. Please pray for us. He threw away a phemonal job. Damnit! I won't be online for meeting tonight. He will be here. (Tears)
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"It's impossible said pride. Its risky said experience. Its pointless said reason. Give it a try whispered the heart - Anonymous (via Tad)
Why cant you be at your online meeting tonite?? Thats when you need a meeting the most.!
My experience is do not make the AH the focus. I know its difficult with the job loss, but there is always hope. You need to be encouraged. Thats most important.
This is a quote from a book I'm reading. You can substitute HP for God if you like.
"God can use a crisis and a time of confusion in our lives to bring us to a decision that will result in a blessing.
A crisis is a situation in which your future will take one direction or the other- it will get better, or get worse. A crisis has embedded within it an opportunity- the opportunity to make a good decision that will produce a good result.
God is a God who creates a way where there seems to be no way. "
Grass. I agree with what you have said. Maybe this is something that is needed to break him. He told me lastnight he is just tired of living. Dare I bring his attention to AA? Or even Al Anon? I really don't want to, why? It's MY safe place. Is is selfish of me? I am really not sure. So today is here, the sun has risen, the moon is on the other side of the world. I couldn't get mad lastnight, disappointed yes but seriousily why is it such a shock to me? I have been living on this roller coaster for the past five years. Job, to job, to job to job. Same ole saying, not enough money, policies are stupid, people are retarded, I hate seeing people every day. I basically just accepted as hard as it was and said okay God, what is next? I am trusting YOUR plan. I may not LIKE your plan but I am TRUSTING it.
I watched the OTHER SIDE OF HEAVEN (believe it or not it's a Disney movie). Watch it! It really put alot of things into place for me. My girls and I had a wonderful lovely evening together (then slap ...S/O texts me and he has abandoned work). Faith is never a quick fix, it's produced through crisis, trials, tribulations, even then and only when we finally understand we walk by faith and not by sight. We can't be moved by things we see.
So, yes I am scared. But am I hopeless? No. God has carried me this far. He will carry me the rest of the way, IF I let him. So today, and tomorrow and every other day. Here I am.
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"It's impossible said pride. Its risky said experience. Its pointless said reason. Give it a try whispered the heart - Anonymous (via Tad)
Inspired - this was my exact situation one year ago. AH was in the throes of his alcoholism and pretty much threw away a great job. He got himself fired and there was just no stopping it. I am trying to see this from a positive perspective in the sense that he has sought out sobriety and has been for a year now, although he is out of work. I think the esh from the others here is really good, and the comment from Grass about opportunity in crises is very true. When I go on the roller coaster of thinking "how could he do this" I try to stop myself and remember, he did what he did b/c he is an alcoholic. But I'm not, and I don't have to make his problem my own anymore. Maybe he needed to do what he did to break the cycle. Maybe that is the case with your s/o too. In support and just don't forget to take care of yourself through all this chaos.
