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I am a sister of a 51 year old alcoholic who just moved in with me 2 months ago she previously had 13 years sobriety and lost her job and moved across country to live with me. To help me take care of my terminal I'll mother who is also living with me.
She has been relapsing for past 5 weeks and she will go to a aa meeting and go drink after the meeting I don't know what to do but sh
She has no where else to live and no insurance for treatment what should I do
I too am glad that you found us and would like to suggest that you search out alanon face to face meetings in your community and attend These meetings can be located by calling the local chapter of alanon.
The behavior and feelings that you describe are very familiar
We believe that alcoholism is a disease that we did not cause cannot control and cannot cure. Living with this disease affects our emotional well being and we need a recovery program of our own.
Alanon was founded for this purpose. We have on line meetings here that are also very helpful
Only one of the several things I did when my alcoholic/addicted son came to live with me was clearly and nicely state my boundaries about being on the property under the influence. There was no discussion on that one cause I learned that "No" is a complete sentence in my Al-Anon home group. Your sister has AA recovery under her belt so shes got stuff you don't and she's drinking in spite of it which is difficult at best. With as much recovery time as she has she will understand the simple instructions and consequences. I am a double in that I also have AA recovery time. Let me assure you that we alcoholics know already and we expect the push off when we are drinking. My Al-Anon program taught me not to get inbetween my alcoholic/addict and her bottom. The harder the bottom the more value it has. In support and listening.
(((((hugs)))))
Keep coming back and take hotrod's suggestion to heart if you haven't already.
You have a lot on your plate and really need to take care. I have a boundary with my alcoholic boyfriend he can not be drunk and stay in my house.
I find it really hard to stick to this but i have to. He has bee sleeping on people couches and on the streets. he has just decided to go back to AA. When a drinker has a lot of recovery if they relapse they can come back up quickly if they stop drinking. she is still going to meetings which is a good sign.
Al anon meetings are must in my suggestion if you have an alcoholic in your life , we offer support you can not find anywhere else .
sounds like you could do with some support and hugs for you
Thanks for all ur responses. I called today to get a alanon meeting schedule my sister got a sponsor and went to a aa meeting last night I just can't believe her when she tells me she is not going to drink again. I find myself very angry I can hardly speak to her I am so depressed she has been drinking vanilla since 7/30 I found a receipt in her car she is sober right now but I don't think it will last. I am worried sick about her driving she already has three dui. If she drinks again do I make her leave? She has a grown daughter that lives in town I feel guilty if I try to pass her off on her it is bringing back so many memories that happened thirteen years ago with her drinking the list goes on and on. My mother is a full time job with stage four breast cancer with mets to spine
You don't have to think of it as passing her off. Her daughter is also free to say "no" to her. It can be thought of also in terms of giving her the dignity to make her own choices and have her own consequences. I only have 4 years sober and I pray my family would put me to the curb if I relapsed. I put them through enough with my drinking already. I don't know if I could live with my manipulating them like that again after having had some recovery already. That's just me though.
I just told my sister I can not put up with her living here and the drinking and asked her what do I do with her the next time she drinks she is very upset and she said she is going to ask her daughter if she can move in I am so afraid she is going to drink tonight she told me she is not going to drink again I don't believe her
