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Jessigeegee


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Hi, this is my first time on a site like this, I am a 23-year-old married to an alcoholic. My husband and I met three years ago, when we were both in the military, and like most military couples we married soon after we met. After returning from Iraq, I found out my husband had a problem with drinking, by time I figured it out I pregnant with our daughter. During my pregnany, my husband drank all the time, lied, yelled, spent way too much money, disappeared for days and stressed me out way too much. I cannot even begin to describe the things he put me through. Soon after our daughter was born, he got into trouble with the military, because of his drinking and they sent him to rehab. He spent nearly 4 months there playing the system... Before they caught him drinking and he was kicked out. After he was kicked out we moved to Florida, and he was sober for two-months, then began drinking again two-weeks ago. Two-weeks ago is also when he left my daughter and I for California, to drink. I did not hear from him until last night, when he called to say he checked himeself into rehab, and would be there for as long as it took him to get sober. I filed for divorce as soon as he left, now I don't know what to do... I do not want him to play me again like he has in the past, at the same time I love the man he is, when he is sober.



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Hi Jessi. Sorry to hear you are going through this. How are you coping with all of this while taking care of your daughter? Do you have any family or friends in the area that are helping you through this time? There are no easy answers. I wish there were.
I would ask your attorney what your options are in terms of time frame. I wonder if the place he is going offers counseling for the spouse? I think that would be helpful no matter what road you end up choosing. They could perhaps give you some insights into your situation that could be helpful. I will be praying for you tonight that God would give you comfort, wisdom, and peace.
Much love,
K

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Dear Jessie.
 
Welcome to Miracles in Progress
I am so sorry that you are living with the pain of alcoholism. Good news!!! there is help, hope and you are not alone. 
 
 
 
The behavior and feelings that you describe are very familiar. Alanon is an organization of men and women who have been affected by someone else's drinking. We believe that alcoholism is a disease that we did not cause, cannot control and cannot cure. Living with this disease affects our emotional well being and we need a recovery program of our own. In alanon we learn how to break the isolation caused by the disease by attending face to face meetings in the community. . We also learn to focus on ourselves, live one day at a time with courage, serenity and wisdom.  We do not give advise in alanon.  We offer successful tools that enable each member to grow, build their self esteem and make the important choices for themselves.
 
We have on line meetings here every day and there are alanon face to face meetings in your community Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.htmlOr call: 1-888-4alanon
 
Keep coming here as well Sharing the journey is so very important.


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Aloha Jessie...welcome to MIP and I'm sad with you for what you're going thru...I've been there and done that myself and along comes another person with the same message as HOTROD has for you here...Read her message again and again...you are not alone...there is help for you here and out there also.  Get to the face to face Al-Anon meetings first before you make a major change.   Keep coming back here ((((hugs)))) smile



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Thank you so much, I am starting Alanon again on Sunday.

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