Nervous Breakdown!? - Al-Anon Family Group

Amandakay · Veteran Member

Nervous Breakdown!?

katfshh · Senior Member

I'm sorry. I know how those days are. They stink! Especially when you have to "act" like everything is great at work. =(

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

In other countries, they actually have days off you can take not just for mental health but for relationship issues. Most supervisors know and are supportive of how difficult personal situations can be (without having to go into detail that this is much more than just a break up). I would be more concerned about you if you were not feeling emotional and raw right now. You are only human. If you need to take a day off, do it. Take care of yourself!!!!

Amandakay · Veteran Member

Thanks Pinkchip... I may just need to do that! This is just sooo much stress to deal with... Thanks for the advice!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

HUGS Amandakay

This is a painful journey that we are on at times, Please remember HP is walking with you.

In my prayers

katfshh · Senior Member

I think if you have an EAP program they can get you some counseling. Also, I know of people that I work with that have gone on a Leave of Absence for relationship and stress issues. Look into it. =)

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Do you have sick leave? There is also another kind of leave where you can take time off without pay and they have to allow you to come back. family leave or something, its federal.

This is one of the worst times you are going to have in your life! So much has happened. Of course you are unable to function. Think of this as a huge wound! You are broken for so many reasons.

Can you afford to take a few days off to rest? Many of us have been where you are. When I was I was fortunat it was during spring break (I tutored) and I had two weeks to add to it. I napped and napped.

When I did have to work I would go and not allow myself to think of anything else but work. If I started to I reminded myself, work only.

Do you have family or friends where you can go to be loved? You need company of intimates ones right now desperately, so does your daughter.

I had a support group for at risk teens in hi school. One time they all said they had been sexual abused!!! I was so shocked. I learned so many kids had been. I want to tell you, with loving adults and friends they came out doing very well.

Sadly you would be shocked by how many people who have been. I think it is one out of three.

Plus you have lost someone you must have loved or love very much!

I sometimes even now just go lay down and cry and sob it out till I am done. I have done this at work in the bathroom! Its ok to let it out! You have a broken heart, nothing hurts worse! I would rather have the worst cold in the world to go thru that again, or surgery!!!

Please come here and vent as much as you need. I hope you are off for the week end. Be very nice to yourself. I would go get ez food, drink good water, watch movies and nap. if you need to have someone take kiddo for a day or two that would be good too.

Hope you keep posting. We really do care! love,debilyn

dragonflys · Senior Member

When my AH left, I was a wreck. I talked to my manager and said things were going to be tough for me. I have no family here so I have essentially NO help with my 2 kids. They were very understanding and said whatever I needed, to just ask.

The first two weeks were the worst so I asked to work from home, I emotionally could not handle being at work and was kinda on suicide watch with my son.

Take care. We are all here for you.

Hugs!
dragonflys

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

You got some solid feedback from the family...I brought some ((((hugs)))) smile

katfshh · Senior Member

It's the FMLA act. But, you have to file paperwork with your company and a doctor has to sign it. I think it's short for "Family Medical Leave Act."

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

thank you kat!

Amanda I came here to check on you before I went to bed. I hope you can get some restful sleep honey. We all care so very much.

I am not kidding, naps can help you. Do your best to stay as calm as you can. Chamomile tea, simple easy to digest food. Put a hot water bottle on your tummy. I spooned with my Basset hound to keep mine from hurting.

sending you healing thoughts. debilyn

Amandakay · Veteran Member

Thank you guys so much! I stayed up late last night and talked with my brother and then cleaned the house... it was kinda nice looking around and realizing that I can hang the wall paper up that I love but he hates. I got good sleep and spent some time with a dear friend and she helped me talk some of this out and clear my own conscious... And I slept with all 3 of my dogs!

It's so sad to know how many girls are molested! It's just so horrible... It's so unnecessary!! I appreciate everyone's advice. Sorry for not responding yesterday to thank everyone. I did read them, but I just didn't really have the energy to respond, if you know what I mean... thanks so much for the hugs and support... I can feel it and I can tell you all are helping to hold me up in the dark time. You guys are such a good family and I'm glad to be a part of it!!!!! ((((HUGS))))

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