I'm coming in late on this, but just love a share on my happiness being my responsibility. My whole codependent dis-ease is triggered when I keep focus on what others are doing/not doing and my perceived self-absorbed needs/fears are not being met and I fall into anger, victim mode, and self pity. self. self. me. me. me. who does that sound like? I was always told, it's the same disease.

I finally had to give myself permission to move ahead with recovery, which meant leaving my loved ones behind. sad, scary stuff, man oh man, does this spiritual path take courage, or what!

My sponsor taught me to define the word responsible as "able to respond." To myself. because that is all I have the power to change. I had to get out of myself and my incessant wishing, wishing, wishing that others would be something other than what they were, to detach and simply respond to my own life. I had to break from my own thinking disease - the cruel illusion of thinking and believing that life should look different than what it is... that people should do something other than what they are doing.... that others "should" want the oxygen mask too.... when in reality, they don't. They're not ready. They did not hit a bottom, I suffered so much that I did, and I can respond to that. I have the POWER to respond to that.

Thank you for posting, it gives me courage. Soooo glad you are feeling GOOD ((hugs))