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I am the Mum of an alcoholic? He was in rehab for five months and was 8 years sober. We live three hours flight away from him. He came on holiday to us last week with his children and we discovered he was drinking. He controlled it somewhat while here, was in complete denial and bare-faced lied about drinking. On departure from here to go home I knew he had been drinking and I was so worried I had to call his ex wife to meet them at the airport on their return as I didn't want him driving the children home from airport. Since his return home he has been completely out of control and is certainly going to lose his job. He neds to go back into rehab but won't see it as he says he will lose his job (as if he is not going to lose it if he continues to drink). I have no Al-anon where I live and am completely I bits. Cannot eat, suffering extreme anxiety and fear. I just don't think I can go through this hell again.
You may not have Alanon there where you are, but you have the computer. That gives you access to all the tools. Do you have the Alanon books Courage to change or One day at a time? Start reading those if you do or read online everything you can about Detachment. You don't have to go through this alone again. There are many of us who can share our Experience Strength and Hope with you online.
I hope you can find a meeting close by you...that will help you a lot. There is a sense of family, of knowing you can and will get through this in Alanon.
Pray for your son and take time to take care of Lynn.
I am going through a relapse too with my husband of 26 years. His rehab was much shorter than your sons and his sober time was much shorter too. You are definitely not alone. I am feeling very much the same way.
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G Llewellyn
