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Last monday and tuesday my BF went on a non stop drinking benge with whisky. It got so bad that she got in my face with his nose touching mine. when i didnt move or back down that just pissed him off. If i dont yell or get up set he gets mad....i really dont understand. There is now a huge dent in the hood of my truck beacuse i was in it and he couldnt hit me so he hit my truck. It aint small eaither. 98 dodge ram dually v10 magnum........im glad that wasnt my face. I told him it was over he had to leave. I didnt care were he went but he ahd to go so he called the cops and went to the hospital for dextox. after 24 hours they sent him to a rehab for 3 days...he came home and stayed sober until yesterday. He drank 2 16oz beers. I was very disapointed and a little pissed that the last week was a waste. He ask me what was wrong. I said calmly nothing why? Im just cleaning...is something wrong? And he went off.....he was mad beacuse i wasnt yelling and screaming and i didnt say anything about the beers. I just dont understand.....i asked him why was he trying to start something? I didnt say anything and dont have anything to say about the beer....so he got pissed. went outside and fell asleep in the hammock. I went to the barn then came home and cooked dinner. he woke just fine a dandy........Im lost??? llololol. He gets his license back this month....im just waiting for him fail.......sorry i dont get on much i moved to the bonnies and i dont get internet there. I just found wireless boardband thank go. i now have access to the outside world! just a little vent i guess
Lots of codependency and manipulation there on his part. I do hear some healthy detachment on yours and that is pretty inspiring. Smashing your car with his fist is still an act of violence though - Please take steps to prepare yourself in case of emergency and needing to leave for safety. Detaching from his alcholism is 1 thing. You don't really want to detach from unacceptable anger/rages.
I too would like to urge you to check out the alanon face to face meetings in your community. The support and tools that you will develop as a result of attending will change your attitudes and life
Please also do as Maresie suggested and attend our on-line meetings here
well it sure didn't take long at all. I was cleaning Saturday and found 3 beer cans behind the futon in the spare room. I said nothing at all just picked them up and put them on the counter. he threw them away and asked where i found them. I told him and he acted like he didn't know. I told him the were new and that he drank than last night. he said nothing to that but then tried to start a fight saying that 3 beers is nothing its completely normal and he could have drank more. I told him that he is right that amount is normal for someone that is not an alcoholic but hiding it shows that he knows he shouldn't have drank it. I turned it around and asked him if it was ok if i ate a lot of cake. He said sure if that's what you want. So i asked if it was ok for a diabetic to do the same. well he got my point on that and tried to act like it never happened. went threw the day just fine. went out to eat and he orders 2 32oz beers!!!! well i guess that was just a waste of time and money. he doesn't have insurance so he is going to get a hospital bill for detox that didn't help him any. Im not paying any of it!!! so we are right back where we started. I think im done trying. Im 26 I want to have a life and this isn't it.
