BF is sober again now 17 days since his relapse.  He found a place to live and will be moving in on the 1st.  He was homeless a bit but once he got back into his meetings, had resolved his living situation and accepted my boundaries, he can stay here temporarily.  Moving in is not an option...  I only allowed it because he wasn't asking me and was taking full responsibility for his issues.

He's at a meeting right now, back in school, brought his grades back up and staying sober.  I've got my boundaries and am learning each day a little more to let go.  He has run into a couple of difficult moments and all by himself handled it.  One day he had a "craving" just a week post new sobriety and he immediately started calling people and got himself to his old sponsor, going to see several AA friends, talked to me on the phone while driving and got through it.  Got to a meeting too.  He's had a couple of days where he was busy and tired and didn't want to go to a meeting and then he said "but given that I don't want to go, I need to so I will".

I can't say how this will go right now.  I am getting a lot of practice on detaching because when he is handling his moments - I'm worrying.  So it's just showing me where specifically I am still struggling.  I am refraining from trying to help though, that I'm getting good at.  But worrying, me and HP having lots of talks LOL.

On another front, my ex is moving 8 hours away.  My first instinct was shock.  Followed by irritation because there will be no more kid free weekends for me - guess I better enjoy my last two LOL.  Once I got past the shock I finally stepped back and realized how good this is going to be.  While I have really put down a lot of good boundaries with him, because there are kids involved he still has a foot in my life.  THIS will get him one more big step out.  I could not be more thankful.  I did have a moment of rage because he was going to possibly cause me to lose a vacation to England end of August.  But I took a deep breath, told myself to be open to ideas and possibilities, I talked with several options and then the best option.... reallywas so simple.  If I just pay his rent to stay in town one extra week - the entire situation is handled.  I can DO that.

Stress is high right now so I am aware that i need to do something for myself.  Bad stress and good stress but it will pass.