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So, I've been on vacation in FL for the past 2.5 weeks. My 13 year old is currently playing in a top national tennis tournament and he's really enjoying the higher level competition. He lost all his matches but he's got a great attitude and is handling the losses really well.
Also, I have been hit on 3 times in the past 2 weeks. I have been called 'smiley girl' by the nice black guys who ran the food service at the tournament. And, my aunt told me I was glowing when I went to visit her last weekend! How wonderful is all that?
I didn't realize how much I was being dragged down by my AH, it's really encouraging me to take steps to make some real changes for myself. He's actually been really wonderful over the phone, but that could easily change when we're face to face. I just wish my son was older because his tennis and homeschooling really prevent me from getting a full time job and it's one of the real reasons that I stay in my marriage....oh, and also that I'm praying that I can avoid divorce for other personal reasons.
Anyway, it's been so much fun. My son was there today when this nice Latin man said(while walking into the Ft Lauderdale Sports Authority): Let me get the door for this beautiful lady, boys. He was speaking to my son and his friend. And, then he called me princess and said something else flattering, but I was too flabbergasted to remember what it was. My son heard it all and says, "Hey Princess, let me get the door for you, haha, mom. That was funny." He also knows about the other guy who hit on me at the courts and pulled the Joey Tribbiani from Friends when he said, "Hey there, how you doin'?" So, my son walks around going, "How you doin'?" I almost spit out the water I was drinking at the time when I walked past him. Cracked me up because the guy sounded just like the TV character, LOL!
I have another week and a half away from AZ and I am working really hard at giving everything up to my Higher Power. I have attended some Al Anon meetings and am getting with my sponsor when I can. Not sure what the future holds but at least I know that dates will be easy to come by, haha! The good news is that since I'm working on myself, I can be confident that my filters will be working when it comes to making new friends, trusting in the right family and friends, and giving up control of EVERYONE and EVERYTHING else!
Wonderful!! Such a great post. I remember being told by friends and family "C is back - you've been missed". I always had a positive nature and happy disposition but 15 years of misery killed it. Thankfully it was temporary. You go and have a great time and enjoy the attention.
Glad you are having a great time. Definitely the best vacations I took with my kids were the ones without AH. Any excuse to take them to see my parents out of town etc. It was great.