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Chaya


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I'm truly pensive today. I've been spending a lot of time thinking and reading. I'm quiet though. I'm not thrashing about in the ways I have been when im hurt. I can handle this discomfort and sort through it. Maybe it's because I'm thinking now instead of obsessing. I am hurt and angry about my last relationship, but I am not just angry with the exRAbf, I am angry at myself that I continued to subject myself to his manipulation, lies, and chaos. And, what I am realizing is that I don't necessarily have to forgive him, the person I need to forgive is myself. I had to keep making the same mistake over and over until I was ready to receive the intended message from my higher power. So, the two big themes I have identified that I need to work on are realizing that I am great just the way I am and that I need to forgive myself and move foward, learning and growing from my mistakes. Thanks for reading, Chaya

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((((Chaya))))..."you did the best you could with what you had...and now you have more.  You'll do better."   Anger is part of the grief process...do the grieving and punctuate it with a favorite bowl of ice cream or a good book or something else that is nice for you.

 

(((((hugs))))) smile



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hotrod


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Dear Chaya

I agree You have truly identified the two important areas where we should focus. 

Attending meetings, working the steps, using the slogans are all very real ways to begin to forgive ourselves. 

Making an asset listing each morning started to rebuild my self esteem and the gratitude list connected me to my inner appreciation of life

Keep up the good work.



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grayduchess


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This board really does need a 'Like' button   biggrin    Good stuff, Chaya, thanks for sharing!



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Wonderful post. I think learning to take great care of ourselves is part of the process of accepting our imperfections. When I take good care of me, I prove to myself that I am worth the effort no matter my faults.



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"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
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