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So out of the 4 guys I went on dates with I have no chemistry with any of them and 3 of them are clingon's, ready to settle into a relationship and own my space and time. Mr. grabby pants and Mr. codependent were already shut down, but today the guy I had a few fun dates with wants to go camping with my 2 kids and his 2 kids already next weekend for our 4th date within 2 weeks???? I am getting red flags with 3 out of 4 now. Darnit did I get too healthy, that it is going to take me a long time of dating to find the one, yeah I better pace myself soon! Good thing I signed up in the Fall for my RN and will be keeping myself busy with studying when I don't have my kids on the weekends and I joined the local YMCA, time to get back to my old hobbies, haha. Sending you all love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Geeze .. LOL .. you make dating sound like fun!! :) I kid, I kid, .. I just wanted to say you are so much braver than I am and I am looking to you for inspiration that things really get better when you work it!! *snort* Mr Grabby Pants and Mr CoDependent ... LOL!!!
Sending love and support,
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I think you are just "Ms. Let's Keep it Casual" right now. Later one you might turn into a Ms. Grabby Pants and a "Ms. Ready to Settle Down." Red Flags for now vs. Red Flags permanently - doesn't much matter. It's whatever works for you now. Relationships are supposed to be fun and supplement our lives - Who knew after the misery weve been through right?
Don't get me wrong I am having fun and enjoying great conversations, 3 of them have been funny and took me to dinner, opened doors for me and were great to be around. I am just not in a huge rush to settle down and want to feel some chemistry before I feel like I settled. Yes it may just be me going in way over cautious, but I am determined to have fun and live life again. Me, Ms grabby pants, haha, now that is funny, but yeah Pinkchip maybe it is just a faze I have to go through to be ready later on. It is all new to me and I will just flow with it and try to have fun and meet new people along the way.
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
I don't know. Perhaps you ought to start taking yourself out on dates. Seriously. Treat yourself to nice meals. Go for a nice walk in the park. Look in the mirror and give yourself compliments. I'm not being sarcastic. I mean it. From my experience, I've learned that a good relationship with others, whether man or female, begins with self-love.
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
When I first left my ex I went on a bunch of dates. They were fun and no chemestry either. It was good to feel attractive again, but I have decided that I would rather meet them out (not blind dates) and have the chemestry first. Now to get out!!
(((Breakingfree))) :o) You know what? One day you will be going about your business, not really thinking about anything in particular, and suddenly this amazing guy will present himself in a situation you least expect him to be. It will be an ordinary day doing whatever you are doing, and your paths will cross and it will be like you already know each other. The universe works like that...the more we search desperately for the thing we desire the further away it seems to get...then, once we've handed it over and got on with our lives, living in gratitude for what we have and where we are....the thing we are seeking appears, because we are ready to receive it. I wish you all the luck in the world with your RN and your enjoyment of your self!!! (((hugs))) Tigger x
