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Pushka


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My great aunt passed away today.  It has been a rough week, ... thank goodness for faith in HP (God).  It's funny (ironic) how things work out as far as what you think you want and then what the reality is, had things worked out the way they were suppose to the kids and I would have been headed to CA today, my mom would have gotten the call my Aunt had passed and it would have been a horrific under going to say the least.  

It's obviously very hard on my mom, because the situation is what it is she was able to go and be with her Aunt.  We are waiting to come out for another 8 days.  At that point we can be with my mom as she grieves.  I did not have a close relationship with my great aunt and the kids have no solid memories of her.  Eldest saw her the last time when she was 3 and my youngest has never met her.  This old bird was the last of the line connecting anyone to my grandma's side of the family and we just lost grandma not even 10 months ago.  So sad for my mom.  We are both only children. 

The way things happened are the way things needed to happen and I'm sooooo grateful that I can't see as much of the bigger picture as the God of my understanding can, it's not always easy to have to wait to get a clearer understanding. 

All this happened as my STBXA is arguing over what the court order actually says and how he's not paying for things and I'm going well your choices your consequences.  Phoned my atty and let him take care of that issue that was yesterday. 

Well today, he's singing a different tune at this point and I'm just letting him.  After all even his atty didn't know that one bill was court ordered .. WOW .. glad that is HIS atty and not mine!!!  I feel pity for him .. however that's seriously about it.  He's so active in the disease it's frightening to know the kids are with him tonight and Lord only knows what he is doing as far as the drinking goes after today.  I really have to trust that my eldest will know to call me if things get to be to bad. 

They are spending the night tonight only because my little man misses his dad .. sad thing is .. dad doesn't even get it.  The kids won't see him for about 3 weeks at this point.  The one question my stbxa asks after hearing my aunt has passed away is, .. does that mean you are still going on your trip?  REALLY?!  Ummm YES .. how about MY MOM needs us to be out there and support her.  OMGosh .. he just floors me. 

Anyway, I've been practicing a LOT of easy does it.  Trying to keep the focus on me, not so easy today as I'm very scattered to say the least.  There's nothing like planning a trip, while putting together divorce discovery paperwork .. LOL!!  The God of my understanding has a seriously warped sense of humor.  I guess if I wasn't laughing I'd be crying and I'd rather laugh. 

Thanks for listening, hugs P :) 



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ilovedogs


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Hugs to you!!! May God bless you while you travel to support your mom. As for your X, you are doing a great job in releasing things to your Higher Power! Love to you!

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Dear Pushka

Prayers and Positive thoughts are on the way

Ge gentle with yourself



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All the best for you and your family. The creator works in mysterious ways. I can go weeks with nothing happening and then it all comes down at once. But I can guarantee that when there is a crisis my AHSober is no where to be found or he creates a side crisis to go with it.

Nancy

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Jerry F


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You practice well sister...it's working for you.  Can't hear the Merry-Go-Round music with your shares anymore and the roller coaster sounds like it is out of order also.   I'm grateful for your ESH cause I love the sound of peace while the battle is on mute.  Mahalo.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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Sorry for the loss Pushka. When crap goes down now, I do reflect on how I am better able to handle it than I used to be. It's clear that this is the case for you also.

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Sending you lots of hugs and support....

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Breakingfree


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I can so relate with the sick exAH and all that goes with sharing kids and let downs. Sounds like you are working a great program and handing it over! Sending you love and support!

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