The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Here is my pattern: I am involved with Al Anon for awhile, I feel much better, slowly I don't feel the need to check in daily or even weekly, think I'm doing fine, and then WHAM-I have a load of anger that is HUGE. So right now I have this sky-scraper of anger and I knew I had to get back here. It's been many months and I am positive I am in the right place. My spouse is drinking, gambling, eating, and lying. Help, Lyne
Give yourself a break. Living with an alcoholic,gambler would be very very hard. I went to therapy for decades with the expectations that I would bet better. In fact it took years to start feeling better and to start having some distance from issues.
There are times when I can devote a lot to al anon and other times when going to meetings and doing service just isn't possible.
None of us is perfect. I know I can go to anger and resentment in a second. I know what it does to me but I still go there. I have to gently let go and move to a place of focusing on what's next.
