Beautiful share, Jerry.  I appreciated yours as well, Bettina.

I, too, find that if I check in with myself (attitude) early in the day, my day usually goes much more smoothly.  It helps also to keep in mind that I'm responsible for any and all feelings.  That's a powerful realization, especially if applied.

Thank you Jerry. Inspiring as always. My meditation this morning came from Women Who Do Too Much, and it talked of healing. Of how thr pain that we received as children and got stuffed comes up to be dealt with when we are mature enough and ready to revisit it and heal. And how that is actually a loving thing we do for ourselves. I mistakenly believed that the rest of my life would stay the same when ai left my A. Sadly, this has not been the case. So, I am really in that old pain. I am trying to take comfort in that. Thank you.

Jerry F there is something very uncanny about the topics you raise, I have faced some very challenging problems this last week or too both in my private life and my working life, I used to have only two tools to cope immediately and that was fight or flight, I seem to have aquired a change of attitude which allows me to step back step aside and respond in a what can I say, ermm what word describes this I want to say mature ermm grown up respectful, not only for myself but for others, I do take a look at myself after each day and think did I do right firstly by myself and secondly by others, I am practicing giving what I want and it's working, I ask myself do I like who I am and the answer is yes, if all I can do each day is the best I can do, that is enough, how differently I see myself these days as apposed to before, it's funny how when I first started in alanon I was excited by what it promised, I thought I got the hang of it pretty quickly, but there is getting it and then really getting it, and now I am feeling the way it works, I don't like confrontation but it is all part and parcel of life, we are changing the menus at work and the residents do not like change it was very difficult telling them they couldn't have so many choices, I have had to do the best I can with the new menus just to prove It is not possible and I don't mind admitting I have really struggled, but soooooooooooooooo much has come from my efforts I have asked for help, I have made complaints I have appolagised when I thought I was wrong, I have thanked my managers for their support and have much respect that they have been the same with me, change is scary that is true, but it is also nessasary and once we get over the fear things can be much better, Jerry F, you manage to always say what I cannot, you put a purpose to my very being , I so get you, godbless you

Katy

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I've read your responses and they are wide and strong...supportive; truely how I've been raised in program.  Today I inventoried/monitored my behaviors and thoughts often.  I recognized when they were intentional and when they were subconscious.  The intentional ones was when I was "working it" living on the conscious level for a purpose and for desired consequence.  The unintentional; subconscious one are what I have to work on and change.  My unintentional attitudes are very negative and reactionary; full of crazy stuff.  Those attitudes are about defense and hurt and anger and power and control.  I noticed that these are not Higher Power directed attitudes and only come from my self centeredness...pride and ego.  I had to smile because of of the directions which came from old old program came as a result of judging "them" and the direction was "mind your own business!!"

An attitude of powerlessness is very very helpful toward taking care of my own life.

Thanks for all the feedback.  I'll commit them to memory and put them in my tool box.

Mahalo.   (((((hugs)))))